“Heterosexuality isn’t normal. It’s just common.” — Dorothy Parker
I’ve been listening for two weeks now to testimony and questions in a federal courtroom here in San Francisco about what’s wrong with people like me: we’re powerless, we’re politically uncrossable; we’re less well off than straight families, we have more disposable income; we’re hated and despised, but Will & Grace was a tremendous success. We’re underrepresented in Congress, but there’s more federal HIV/AIDS research money than there was in 1983 — lots more!
We’ve heard that coerced reparative therapy is horrific but that sexual orientation can be fluid. We’ve heard that Senators think homosexuality is more dangerous than terrorism but that the woman who’s now Speaker of the House made her maiden floor speech about HIV/AIDS prevention funding. We’ve learned that there are religious denominations that welcome us, marry us, and sustain our families; and we heard that the alliance of Roman Catholics, Latter Day Saints and evangelical Christians to pass Proposition 8 was an unprecedented coalition in America that ignored fundamental doctrinal differences to organize against a common, terrifying enemy: gays and lesbians who want the state to marry them.
We’ve heard that the purpose of marriage is procreation, and that children of gay and lesbian parents are just as well-adjusted as children of opposite-sex couples. We’ve been told that children must be protected from gays and lesbians marrying and we’ve learned that parents getting married is the best thing that can happen to kids.
But the thing that has sustained me, what’s kept me going, what’s made it all worthwhile as I sit in the 19th floor Ceremonial Courtroom day after day typing, typing, mistyping — is the laughter. The laughter rings out among those of us in the room there to hear our lives weighed in the balance, when an absurdity issues from the counsel for the defendant-intervenors, or their withdrawn expert witness depositions replayed on tape, or the defendant-intervenors: that gays are 12 times more likely to molest little children; that gay marriage leads to polygamy, incest and bestiality; that children are confused that a prince can marry a prince. That socially liberal countries that have legalized same sex marriage now have more divorce among opposite sex couples, and that one caused the other.
While there have been tears in the courtroom as we listen to the Plaintiffs tell their stories and the witnesses provide their experience and expertise, it’s the laughter that has meant the most to me. Because if a political movement is mocked and laughed at for its absurd notions and fundamental unfairness, it cannot last long. If its notions simply defy logic and elicit laughter and mockery from fair-minded people, and if its central tenet is one that people really don’t care about very much, then it isn’t going to make headway for very long.
And it simply will not fly, this denying marriage to people who love one another.
So, in that spirit of laughter and mockery, as we begin the last week of the testimony portion of the Proposition 8 trial, I wanted all of you to share in the laughter with our friends from WakeUpWorld.
Tomorrow, join me bright and early at The Seminal for more liveblogging (we have reached liveblogging thread number 38!). Check in at the FDL Prop 8 Hub for more news (including a Twitter feed of all the #prop8 tweets!) throughout the day. Finally, you can support our efforts to bring you the up-to-the-minute liveblogging of the biggest civil rights trial of the century.
But, mostly: just laugh along with us on the 19th floor. It’s gotten me through this. It’ll get us all through it together.
Thanks!



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Teddy, I am with you all the way.
A real case of laugh lest you cry
Go Teddy!
Good evening all.
teddy!
let the mockery begin… love that video — tis a classic dood
Teddy! Laughter is indeed the best weapon against these pious hacks. Afraid I don’t have a lot of laughter in me tonight. Sad day here at the Dr.’s house.
(((dr dick)))
Thank YOU, Teddy, again and again.
((((Dr. Dick)))))
Condolences Doc.
Beautiful kitteh. RIP. ((((Dr. Dick))))
Thanks folks. She was the ultimate rescue animal. Her mother was a feral cat and she was born in the back of a junked car. A friend rescued the litter and talked me into taking two of them (her brother died 6 years ago). She lived a very long life (about the equivalent of a 120 year old person) and seemed quite happy up to the end. I have known for a while that this was coming sooner rather than later and did not think she would live out the year. She took a turn for the worse last week and went down pretty quick after that. It feels strange to think she will no longer be sleeping on the pillow next to me every night or curled up on my chest when I take a nap.
so sorry
((DrD))
Thanks, all of you, I can feel your support in my mistyping fingers every day.
Really sorry. Cheryl and I just lost our cat of 18 year, Max, three week ago (he was diabetic). We cried like babies.
teddy — when the original video was played in the courtroom, was there any chatter about this parody video in the media room?
I happen to like this parody too: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Na83zbo4qY
I’m looking for one I saw a while back where a hottie gets wet from the rain and starts dancing – that one’s a hoot too!
I know bigotry personally in an entirely different context, and it makes me crazy.
TeddyP, I’ll laugh with you and yours, dawn to dusk.
I will mock, jeer, harangue and obviate those who would take your rights.
And I’ll laugh, sneer, and snort at their folly for the reasoning they offer to do so.
Finally, I’ll fight and die, for you and yours, as you and yours would for me and mine.
Of that, we are in common.
Nice work, way to hang in there, be firm and endure and fight, fight. And call upon your brothers and sisters in and out of the LGBT community when you need us because we are there for yas.
And I am against those who would TAKE your rights from you. I’m really, against that.
You know I am thinking positive thoughts. Hopefully the Flying Spaghetti Monster intervenes on behalf of you and all the others in the LGBT community. We should be far beyond denying basic rights to any of our citizens. Damned Talibangelicals & their allies make me want to spit and throw things.
i like this one too
Heh – yeah that one’s great!
my all time fav
Yes, people know about it. The Plaintiffs’ counsel tried twice to admit the real Gathering Storm. I was there when the judge shot it down, and David told me that the second time they were able to get it played only because the Defense had just played a post-election snippet of Bill O’Reilly. Their objection to Gathering Storm was that it was made and broadcast AFTER Prop 8.
But having played the O’Reilly tape, they had (as the judges say) ‘opened the door.’
Not too smart.
so far their defense team hasn’t impressed me with any smarts. they will start presenting their defense monday?
((((Dr Dick)))) I’m so sorry…
Wow, what a wonderful story.
I love that tune, but I love the “Big Fat Collab” version by a bunch of youtubers the best!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tuDJmVkPYpw
that’s the one i was looking for but couldn’t find — thanks kelly
Yes, tomorrow Plaintiffs have about 90 minutes of video to play for us. Not sure what that’s about, we may see some wrangling over it, or it may be all ads from Prop 8.
Then the defense case starts; two expert witnesses, Dr Kenneth Miller and David Blankenhorn. I believe Miller is a reparative therapist; Blankenhorn is a known quack who has a masters degree and then started his own ‘think tank’ about fatherhood in America.
Should be fun; Boies will cross.
<Takes A Lot To Laugh
A train to cry . . . and don’t my gal look good goin down over the sea . . . lord, lord . . .
Oh hoss, sorry for the loss . . . the scent upon . . . be they our women, men, children or pets, are all sadly lost when they pass from us . . . . you sound pretty kewl with it . . . . and it sounds like that cat had a GREAT time with you and on the planet . . . namaste to both.
The Slaughter of the lambs it sounds like to me.
(((Dr.Dick)))
When they get that old, she was 21-1/2, you start expecting it to happen sooner rather than later. She has been in decline for about a year now so I knew it was coming and had time to prepare for it. Still was very hard to watch her go this afternoon.
Reparative therapist, as in “cure teh gay?”
They should look to their own ranks. Guys like Haggert,meth and gay hookers. Two weeks of intense spirital therapy and he’s cured of teh gay.
These guys are like cockroaches, you see one and you know there’s a whole bunch more.
As in certified loony tune quack doing way more harm than good. Any decent cross will destroy him given that the psychological and medical professions do not recognize this as legitimate in any way.
I have long suspected that most of the rabid homophobes were actually heavily closeted bisexuals or gays trying to suppress their own desires.
I am left handed. When I entered elementary school (way long ago prior to indoor plumbing), they tried to “cure” me of it.
Didn’t fucking work.
I have some, um, anecdotal proof of that.
So sorry, DrDick. I know it hurts.
(I was looking at mine this morning, curled up on my lap in the sun. Her nearly-black fur is orange when the sun shines through it. And her truly-green eyes have a wavy red line around the iris, inside the edge. I am thoroughly cat-haired.)
(((Dr. Dick and family)))
Teddy, are there any people from the dark side where you watch? What do they do when people laugh?
I hate to say that in a certain way I “love” this trial. It is kind of pathetic to read the “defense” here.
Does not surprise me in the least, particularly given your former profession.
I have had the same reaction.
I keep expecting that to get mentioned, just as another example of Not-Socially-Acceptable-Must-Change that really isn’t changeable. Or a choice.
((((Dr.Dick))))
teddy how are your fingers holding up? are ya glad this trial is not going to be as long as the libby one?
Yeah, nothing like a extreme case of self-loathing that you’re willing to project on the world.
Teddy, thanks for all your hard work, I worry about your typing fingers hurting. It’s amazing how you capture the color as well as the words.
Banking? heh.
And of course blaming the gays for your own desires.
That, too. I think it may have lower standards than the other one.
Sounds like your the sum of the hopes of some people and the fears of others your beloved by some even nongays and feared by others even gays ( the Rev Haggard ) comes to mind.
However this ends up turning out this is your Evita Peron moment. Go out Proud, Haughty and in Style:
My morally primitive species. Two clever by half for our own good.
Time for me to toddle off. New semester begins in the morning and I need my beauty sleep. This may be the hardest part. It has been more than 20 years since I went to sleep without her there beside me. Take care all and thanks for your good wishes.
g’nite dr dick
OK, I was going along with a little self-deprecating humor, but that is a bit much.
Good night.
Thank you Teddy.
For being there.
And for being you.
DW
Nite Dr. Dick
Good nite, DrDick
My thoughts to you, your family, and a noble soul.
oops, sorry, lost my internet connection there for a bit. silly airport.
now trying myfi.
Oh man, sorry I came in late, did DrDick lose his kitteh?
RIP Shadow.
(((DrDick)))
hHe ‘dark side’ people (Andy Pugno and his evil Comstock-like associate) sit in the jury box and frown at us. Pugno almost spoke to me Friday in the hall but I growled at him and he stepped away.
Growling is an amazingly effective technique with other humans, I find. People really don’t know what to make of it. And if they get up the courage to tell someone it happened, no one believes them.
Try it.
Glad to hear you’re bearing up.
GRRR! :-)
Yes, one of our witnesses was a young man who now works for the Denver Police Department, Ryan Kendall. He was forced into reparative therapy; his mom told him she wished she’d had an abortion or a Down syndrome child instead of a gay son.
He emancipated himself at 16, had a tough growing up, but now has his act together. Talked about meeting NARTH’s ‘poster boy’ for reparative therapy who wanted him to go out to a gay bar with him that night, and said that he did the whole schtick so his parents wouldn’t disown him.
Very sad, the ‘cure.’
ha!
Thanks so much, Mommie Dearest.
Painful to think how many times that scene or something like it has played out.
And the bitter irony is these people think their kids are the ones who are fucked up.
Those folks over at FDL, you’re not gonna believe this, but they growl at you, low and guttural-like, it’s enough to make the hair on the back of your neck stand right up.
And the word is, it’s catchin’ on.
Some are even saying that it’s a national movement a kind of political statement.
(I confess, I am a growler from way back, and Teddy’s right, it is a primal reality, just below the threshold of conscious awareness … and it is amazingly powerful. S’truth.)
DW
Yep, teh growl. Go for it. Of course, they may interpret it as a come on. Which it is. Or maybe not. But they will never know. Heh.
HOnestly, Teddy, I HOpe the trial is their undoing. I love FDL for covering it. Thank you for your great work!!
Brave kid, he went right to social services the first chance he got when he was 16 after two years of conversion therapy, told them his story and they got him out of the home and helped him emancipate himself.
But it was a very hard story for him to tell on the stand, and a very hard one to hear too.
You are welcome.
It’s not fun, really, but it needs doing.
In the end, nothing funny about it at all.
I am proud to know you ,Teddy, for a lot of reasons.
And I am proud of you, too.
I just watched “Milk.” 1978 is forever and not much progress in this time. THAT is damning.
aw, ((((dr dick))))
Hi GW, I have not seen you here in forever. Signing off and hope you are well.
I’m sure that she was very happy to have spent even her last moments in your presence.
Be well, my friend … and get another Kitty, quick !
Been a rough season on furry companions. Like all our loved ones, remember to hug ‘em every day.
Heading out, best wishes to all.
Back again. I was right, it is really hard going to sleep without her. Hey rf & Petro!
Already have another one who has been with me for about 4 years. She has been a little wierded out by this as well.
Hey Doc. Terribly sorry to hear about Shadow. Beautiful kitteh.
Oh, so sorry, true what you say. I am really going off now, but will be thinking of you. I know she is fine, but the sadness is here on this side. I hope you can rest.
{{{ Teddy }}}
When I logged into FDL at the start of the Prop8 trial, I was eager to experience the brilliance of the most unlikely pair of Olson & Boies.
What blew me away was your brilliance !
You poured your Heart into blogging even the most disgusting and disingenuous testimony and questioning and I am eagerly looking forward to more of your blogging tomorrow.
Keep shining the Sunlight and eventually and this contempt will fade away.
Know that we are all united with you, and when equal rights are given to our LGNT family, we’re gonna pop the bubbly !
Thank you all for your kind words, and to WakeUpWorld for the laughs as well!
Thank-you Teddy. You’re a hero.
OK. Had my nightcap, so I am going to try again. Take care again.
turns out i’m a driveby tonight. off to bed myself.
Night DrDick!
Want to know the really funny part?
Whether the government recognizes us, whether or not we can get some minister to perform a ceremony, many of us who are committed to each other will MARRY each other anyway.
I swore the most heartfelt, sacred vows of my entire life on 21 Dec 98 to an audience of one: My wife. And she swore to me. We have been married twelve years now and we do not give a flying rat’s ass for anyone who says otherwise.
Unfortunately, our supposedly civil non-religious government disagrees.
Teddy, I’m a straight Episcopalian attending a mostly gay/lesbian congregation in downtown Sacramento. You probably know about the huge conflict in our national church and the Anglican Communion in recent years about ordaining gay/lesbian priests, much less consecrating a gay bishop – Gene Robinson, much less blessing gay “marriages” etc.
Part of my spirituality in recent months is reading the Episcopal Church’s Forward Day by Day meditations. The unidentified author for January was writing from the perspective of being a missionary in the Sudan. The meditations have been so incredibly powerful, both convicting and comforting as she describes how horridly hard life is like there. The very succinct note about the author said merely that (he/she???) was now a missionary in Haiti.
Via an interesting circuitous route of searching for more info on the Episcopal church in Haiti, I stumbled upon information about the mysterious author I had come to appreciate so deeply. SHE is Lauren Stanley, a priest and missionary who was “thrown out” of the Sudanese Episcopal Church because the Archbishop is rabidly anti-gay and she had dared to pronounce at a US diocesan conference that gays and lesbians were fully human and worthy of all respect, etc. etc. She wasn’t advocating for any kind of recognition as in marriage, etc, she was just, hey, they’re human like us. When the Archbishop learned about her comments he insisted this past summer that she leave her post; so she’s now a missionary to Haiti.
Not related to the above, but I want to share that I came across a U Tube depiction of a a sermon she gave earlier this last week in Virginia where she is working on coordinating the national Episcopal Church’s aid responses to the current earthquake crisis. She essentially said, in her enumerations, that virtually all of the Haiti Episcopal Churches’ facilities for all kinds of ministries in Port au Prince had been totally destroyed, virtually all it’s clergy and other ministries staff had survived, but the bishop was living in a tent city with his parishioners because his home had been destroyed as well. He and his flock have lost everything in the earthquake. About ten years ago I worshiped in the beautiful Episcopal Cathedral with its extraordinary Haitian art murals. Now it is gone, the urban schools for children are gone, the special programs for the handicapped are gone, their seminary and university are gone. In short the physical assets of the Episcopal Church in Haiti are gone. But the 100k Episcopal members across Haiti are coping and caring for one another, wherever they are.
I can’t get my head around these realities. We have several mentally ill homeless men who hang out around our downtown church for whom we provide sack lunches and hospitality in our parish hall. My hear aches for them.
But when I think of the homeless and destitute in Haiti I am totally overwhelmed. I’m enraged by the militarization and occupation of Haiti by America troops. I rejoice that folks are sending money to all kinds of agencies. And I praise God for all the folks who are struggling to do any and everything they can to help in spite of horrendous conditions. Lord have mery…..
Well it’s 5 am here and the alarm is due to go off in a couple of hours so I can go get a total spine MRI this morning to identify the extent of the nerve (and other pathology) damage/deterioration is involved in my ongoing chronic pain. Thank God I no longer have to deal with the bitch of typical neuropathy smptoms in my feet and hands, etc, but I really am tired of the radiculopathy problems.
Teddy, may the Lord sustain you in your work today at the court house. Thanks so much for what you’re doing, and may the Lord help the plaintiffs prevail with a strong YES for marriage for all.
Blessings,
But
(((But)))
(((all the Kittehs & Dr. Dick)))
And what Petro said about Teddy-rific liveblogging. Your writing is so heartfelt, it is really beautiful, Teddy.