In light of Jane’s Thursday appeal to “reframe the [health care] debate in human terms,” I began again to think about the times that I, my family, and my friends have had to tackle medical problems here in the US—and, by comparison, in other countries—and how I could translate those experiences into stories that would do more than indulge my past struggles, more than preach to the choir, and more, dare I say this, than just inspire a lot of sympathetic comments (much as those have been and will be appreciated). How can I—and how can we—take these experiences and turn them into something that will prevent any of us from having to endure journeys like these ever again?
I was going to start with my own story (a classic tale of the failings of the American employer-centric insurance system), but the recent accidental death of the grandson of a family friend got me thinking about the much-too-premature death of my own sister in 2006. I had written about my sister’s struggle soon after her passing, but, for obvious reasons, I haven’t looked at that post in years. Going back now, I am dismayed by what I found—not just because it brings back painful memories, but because the problems I wrote about then are still the problems today (perhaps things are even worse). Tragically, even with the “regime change” that I had anticipated over three years ago, these rather obvious points still need to be made in this all-too-common story.
Lisa, 1964 – 2006
There is so much and so little to say when someone dies abnormally young. I can start with the facts: Lisa was my sister. She would have turned 42 in three weeks. She had been in poor health for years, but her rather sudden death was unexpected.
Lisa’s adult life was a series of peaks and valleys, but, in the end, as the valleys grew deeper, the synergistic effects of health and personal problems made it increasingly difficult to climb back up to level ground. Lisa was not particularly good at taking care of herself, but what I am left with is how the state of the US healthcare system made it so hard for others to take care of her.
Many tried—most notably and nobly, our mother—to get Lisa the help she needed, but because my sister had multiple problems, she had to deal with multiple specialists in multiple places. Sometimes those doctors coordinated their approach, but many times they didn’t. Lisa would likely only have benefited from an approach that tackled most of her problems comprehensively and at the same time, but no such program existed for her. Instead, a program that could deal with one problem would only take her if she got another one under control first, and so on down the line. Finding one doctor to manage all of Lisa’s care, or one place that would keep her as an inpatient until she was back on her feet, proved virtually impossible.
I say “virtually” only because with unlimited funds, so much is possible in our healthcare system—but our family’s funds were far from unlimited. For every day spent seeking treatment, it seemed two or three were spent seeking ways to pay for it, and that isn’t so much sad as it is shameful.
Contrary to the propaganda of the insurance industry, selfish Libertarians, and greedy Republicans, Americans have actually favored national, universal healthcare since the 1980’s. On Wednesday, the day after my sister’s death, yet another study confirmed this. The Citizens Healthcare Working Group, a panel that came into being as part of the miserable Medicare drug bill, reported that it was now a national consensus that the federal government should guarantee all Americans access to basic health insurance.
I’m sure it will require several more panels and studies before we can determine that the fed’s guarantee should be backed up with a federally administered program, and a regime change in Washington before we can actually get laws that bring about such a program. Until that time, it is hard to imagine or count how many people will fall through the cracks of our current, fractured system. But I needn’t imagine, and I can start that count at one.
So, that was then, and. . . well, that is now, too. I cannot think of anything in this 2006 story that would be much different in 2009—but it is incumbent upon all of us to make sure it will be very different in 2010 (or, at least as most of the reform legislation is written, in 2012 or 2013). How can we do this? First, of course, we continue to pressure Democrats to stand with the vast majority of the American people and insist that any reform bill contain a robust, gimmick-free public option. Second, check out POP (Public Option Please), maybe score a limited edition poster like the one pictured above, watch the videos, and join the campaign to make the public’s representatives act for the public good.
Thank you.




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Anyone hearing this story and still argues against healthcare reform is only masquerading as human.
Thats it we have to call the GOP out on sin. If the Jesus Camp crowd does not have compassion for others well then they are not getting to heaven.
Tough stuff.
I don’t know how I would deal if any of my 3 sisters fall victim to this. Breaks me up Gregg.
I still think Olbermann putting it out there to be lauded (or chopped off) is a good thing. Shame and example goes a long way at this stretch of the race. If shaming the culprits, or giving of one’s self personally will get it done and this can be remedied, tell me where to sign up.
I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your sister – this must have been so difficult, and perhaps remains hard to comprehend.
This is an excellent idea. Recently I was trying to get some of the major faiths to call out Sean Hannity on his sick views on torture. They didn’t want to get involved.
Christ was a healer and a teacher. To have his followers push against programs that will heal is just bizarre.
One of the local pastors has a very beat up old truck that he has spray painted something about how this is what Obamacare would look like. My husband and I put up with this kind of comment a lot. The folks we know are nice enough and most are intelligent, but such a bunch of sheep that just won’t think for themselves.
We are just amazed. When one of them said that they didn’t want the goverment between them and their doctor, my husband told him, that he would rather the government than some d*mm insurance company. That shut him up.
To win this fight we need personal stories of sick people like this. We need people willing to share their pain in the desire to avoid others from having to suffer.
True I’m sure after being Crucified Jesus is against torture.
False Prophet
Compare her story with Sara’s @ Orcinus tale about the canadian health care system. It that is what it is, then socialise me baby!
Pardon my spelling, please!
You know the White House DID gather these kind of stories. I remember that Biden was talking about gathering them and they probably did. But they did not roll those stories out like a product launch.
The people with stories should have been coached and a team of people pitching them and placing them on the news shows. Then there should have been teamed with someone who could talk about how the new medical program would stop this abuse and how they will be better cared for under the future system. Two person teams, a real person and a wonk. Pitched and placed on Cable TV, radio and print. Give me a budget and the a couple of teams and we could have them all over the news. One team would be controversial and intellectually aggressive, another team would be more emotional and soft. Teams would be matched to the kind of shows that like this stuff. So for example one team member would be a celebrity with a health problem or a book out. That way you could kill two birds with one stone.
This needs marketing and PR people not policy people.
Emotional stories tied to policy stuff would help. And then marketing terms tied to policy would help further.
When I hear people bitching about how great the right is with slogans I wonder, “Where are OUR great marketing and slogan people?” And then I remember, they are working to sell movies, cars and soda pop. They are paid well to sell things, the democrats think that the marketing and PR geniuses will do it for free. The insurance companies and republicans know you need to pay for people. Some of us will give it away for free, but not everyone can afford to do it (or keep doing it.).
I just got back from dinner and saw Loo Hoo’s comment about Katymine,
Katy..if you’re here…..love ya, honey.
Don’t look for Christ in the dead. Look here. We are here to lift each other up. Nothing else.
She is a real good writer I’ve seen her stuff around.
Jesus suffered state sponsored torture, but he WANTED it. It was necessary for him to fulfill his destiny ergo torture was good and necessary.
This is how the local right wing talk radio host explained it. He also believes that Jesus was pro-gun because in a passage he said that Jesus told his disciples to get a sword and go out and preach the word. He said, “The sword was the hand gun of the day. If Jesus wanted a teachable moment he would have said nothing about getting a sword.” I’m not making this stuff up.
didn’t make the cut, though.
All hail the old testament.
The local right wing talk radio hos is talking out of his ass.
I study what Jesus said and did. He didn’t listen to those shows.
I agree with everything you say except that. The GOP’s PR people had 9/11 fear to work with they are far from being geniuses.
If you look at the right wing attitude toward health care you also see this anger at someone getting something that that they feel they don’t deserve.
They believe that it’s all about money. If you have money you can get care. If you don’t have money they believe you can still get care.
“There are programs”
Listen to my local right-wing talk radio host Brian Sussman on KSFO
get very upset at a doctor who was explaining how insurance companies were trying to cut a patient off of her health care
(audio clip)
His comments explain a lot about how the right views things. He was the organizer of the faux town hall on health care in SF.
I think the sword is a symbol the 12 disciples were never known to attack a single person with a sword, knife catapult etc as far as I know.
I think sword means you have to fight for your ideas as if you had a sword.
Kind of like we do here.
I think you know some things.
Indeed, whether or not katymine is currently joining us at the lake I hope she knows she is in all our hearts.
This sounds like the Pharrisses view that Jesus preached against the I’m rich therefore God likes me so I must be good theory.
The poor people are poor so God must hate them because they are bad theory.
Weighing on my heart.
I brought you home a little bit of the deep fried ice cream.
Celebrate life.
Shoot not from the hip, but from the heart.
((Ratfood))
The messaging also needs to be reframed against health “insurance” companies in human terms. Ads that had a black screen with audio of telephone conversations involving gut wrenching true incidents of outrageous denial of coverage.
The thing that shuts people up is when you ask them what’s worse, the guvmint, the one that finances old folks Medicare, or an insurer getting between you or your doctor?
Nice play on words:)
Dear Heart.
Sorry, Gregg. I lost a younger sister too. Worst.
Oh, yes she is, and thank you for this lovely message.
Thanks ((demi)). BTW, I brought my really BIG bowl. :)
Hi, sweetie. Hope you are well. I’m finally relaxing. Whew!
I’m glad you have something BIG. Just teasin’ ya. *g*
I think the lack of compassion, the lack of a desire to help others is proof that evolution is wrong. After all apes wolves the social animals care for sick members of their group unlike Republicans.
Isn’t it wonderful to relax? I’m doing well too.
I lost my sister too – in 2006 and to meth. It was a horrible and cruel death. She was 40 yrs old in 2006.
I was literally at her deathbed. I was at the end of it, holding her feet as she passed. It was in Southern Missouri, in the Mark Twain National Forest, about 40 miles north of the Arkansas border.
I’ll never, ever, forget that night, because I simply can’t. It’s seared in my memory, fiercely. She was my little sister.
Evolution happens really slowly. And, some folks think denying it acutally might slow it down.
Night, night Things and all others.
Peace Out.
Lucky guess.:)
Oh well, who needs a stretch limo when you’ve got no place to go?
Nite Demi I do believe in evolution of course I believe in devolution too the GOP proves that.
My deepest sympathy to you, to Gregg, and to everyone who misses someone dear to them.
G’nite demi, thanks for the ice cream.
Q: Are we not veal?
A: We are Devo
There are some very sweet souls here at the Lake.
Hugs all around.
I feel for you Kelly and wish you well.
Thanks for your responses, I appreciate them.
But here’s the thing. If you are with someone when they die, you will always look at life differently.
This veal pen crap that Jane posts, is so true.
If you actually are with someone when they die, you know EXACTLY what it’s like. These stupid and lousy veal pen considerations as regards the PO, much less single payer, where we’ve already negotiated away UNIVERSAL CARE, are exactly that; stupid and lousy.
We might get the chance to use all these personal stories this fight is taking forever.
My best friend has been fighting acute leukemia most of this year, doing better than could possibly have been expected, but it requires constant medical care to stay alive. Fortunately he has very good insurance. The racket nature of the process is more than apparent to him as the hospitals and doctors often run the gauntlet on him often just to get paid.
Sorry, Kelly.
I’ve been with four loved ones at the end. It was painful but I am glad I was there to hold their hand and provide some comfort. Yes it changed me forever, a better if lonelier person, I think.
Oh, your compassion is so encouraging. Mr. CE and I have not lost a single parent yet, nor sibling, really not any relative. I am dreading it.
The End.
Participating in it – 4 times, 1 time, 12 times; just participating changes you. It just does. Being separated from death, the dying process, is oh so nice for people.
We make such clean lines for ourselves, to separate ourselves from death until it happens to your loved ones or YOU! And then you find all sorts of resource to live, for yourself or the other.
This is the essence of the Healthcare Debate. Money is bullshit; life is everything.
Please don’t live in dread, enjoy the time you share with the people you love.
Agree, Christine. We all have folks we know could die, but we have to keep it in perspective. My dad is 81, and my mom is 80. We just need to be prepared.