It’s pretty easy to see why both of Dennis Prager’s marriages ended in divorce.
It is an axiom of contemporary marital life that if a wife is not in the mood, she need not have sex with her husband. Here are some arguments why a woman who loves her husband might want to rethink this axiom.
Now there’s some family values I can get behind. Preach on, Dennis!
First, women need to recognize how a man understands a wifes [sic] refusal to have sex with him: A husband knows that his wife loves him first and foremost by her willingness to give her body to him.
That is so true.
All that emotional support, companionship, understanding, patience, respect, loyalty, life partnership, wit, caring, sickness and health, rich or poor, bearing your children, etc., etc. None of that matters. If she doesn’t put out as often as you want, it means she doesn’t love you.
And what happens when you refuse to do us, ladies?
Every man who is sexually faithful to his wife already engages in daily heroic self-control. He has married knowing he will have to deny his sexual natures desire for variety for the rest of his life. To ask that he also regularly deny himself sex with the one woman in the world with whom he is permitted sex is asking far too much. Deny him enough times and he may try to fill this need with another woman.
Bingo. Do you really want to force us to get some on the side? Give. It. Up.
Unlike Dennis, I’ve only been married to one woman and never divorced, so my insights on women and marriage are obviously inferior to his. But with my limited perspective, I’ve carefully come to the conclusion that he’s a sexist neanderthal asshole who deserves to die alone.
What do you think?



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“I’ve carefully come to the conclusion that he’s a sexist neanderthal asshole who deserves to die alone.”
Please tell us what you really think. :-)
Who is Dense Prager? oops, sorry, Dennis Prager?
WTF? You know, I called bullshit on my Dad when he causally explained that the reason he had all those affairs was that he did not get enough at home. I told him that if that was what he wanted out of life, why the fuck did he marry someone that did not feel the same.
This guy makes my gender look bad. Can I disavow him and his asshattery?
Next week– Newt Gingerich’s marital advice.
prager is a jackass. this is one reason i listen to thug radio. it is a hoot. try it sometime.
This sort of stuff puts men at the level of raging testosterone nut cases – the “I’ve gotta have it” school of thought. I should think a whole lot of men would find that supremely offensive, frankly – the thought that their every waking hour is under the control of a couple of glands south of their belt buckles? Oh, I forgot..that’s what women are accused of.
Despite seemingly supporting evidence, I refuse to accept the premise that the majority of men are nothing more than hard-ons looking for a place to root.
G* I don’t know whether to love or hate those tacky book covers of a certain period. The silhouette-ishness, the overly emphasized spine and curves, the peachy skin and peachy Bridgette Bardot hair . . . what’s not to love? or hate?
Don’t you understand that Dennis got married in the first place because in the long run it was cheaper than taking his laundry to the laundromat, hiring a cleaning service, eating out at restaurants 3 meals a day and hiring hookers? It’s a pity that he didn’t marry a girl from Stepford, who would have understood her duty…
Is this the part were we lay stiff on the bed wearing a negligee?
but you are forgettin the control angle. guys like him need someone/thing to boss around.
Yes. With the lights off.
But still wearing full makeup right?
Doesn’t he have a dog? Get that putz a puppy…
You mean I’m not the only guy who does that..?
Of course. You get up at 3 AM to get rid of that, making sure not to wake him up.
dennis is the kind that would require a cold shower and motionless behavior for ya as well. isn’t he a former undertaker?
I’ve tried it the right way, the wrong way, and alone. The right way, for better or worse monogamously is by far the best. And if you need diversity to keep your interest up, maybe you’re in the wrong place, or you’re not looking hard enough.
Prag: “This is rarely the case for women. Few women know their husband loves them because he gives her his body (the idea sounds almost funny).”
Does this mean that his women laugh at him when he takes his clothes off?
Just who gave this guy a PH.D and in what subject? I’m hoping it wasn’t psyche.
Can we get some comment from his EX’s at the Lake that would be funny!
i wouldn’t wish him on any animal. in montana they do it with sheep.
In the middle of his “all women are sex objects” article there magically appears an ad for Satann Coulter’s latest barf fest. What is it with the black dresses?
Is this the Small Town Values that Sarah was talking about?
Oh no, G* forbid I should do wake him. Dennis might give me the backhand or tackle me again. But if I play nice . . .
Wait you lay stiff on the bed wearing full makeup and a negligee? Tell your guy to f* off.
She has more than one? I thought she just stood it up in the corner every night and climbed back into it the next morning… sort of like a suit of armor…
What if Dennis has very low impulse control and no empathy for women like a sociopath? From his view it makes does sense, you give me what I want now, if you want it and I don’t tough.
Poor Laura…Bush
our presznit has no peepee so it’s not an issue fer laura.
Yeah, I thought Coulter wore the same dress all the time too. We could take a vote on it.
i have one bumper sticker on my car.
it applies to Praeger and anyone who grunts like he does………
“OTHER PEOPLE ARE NOT YOUR PROPERTY”
Thanks BT.
excellent as usual!
Laura’s devotion to her hubby is a little difficult to comprehend, however, I’ve seen no outward evidence that Dubya has anything but respect for his wife. If that perception is accurate, it might be his one positive trait.
Hey, mui1, this is your idea of a good place to invite me? One of the reasons I hand out here is so I don’t have to put up with people like Prager. I so appreciate my own little bubble where the likes of him don’t penetrate. (Pun intended.)
hang, not hand.
Wow! I did this one, too, though from the female perspective. I didn’t realize quite how offensive men would find it, as well.
I think that these heroic men who don’t screw everything that moves should be given an award, something tasteful, gold plated . . . a penis held 1″ from a vagina, perhaps.
Add one more vote to that one BT
saw a bumper sticker yesterday.
when jesus said to love your enemy he probably meant not to kill them.
One could infer that this type of verbal bravado masks the facts that ‘little Dennis’ is a ‘minute man’ when the rubber hits the road.
;>)
Mayhaps I was guessin’. I could check out all of her book covers and teebee clips but I got some tangerines in the back yard that I need to watch grow.
oy!
Gotcha the Twins were inseminated from Donor sperm. Fertility treatments often result in twins do either Bush or Laura have a history of twins in their family?
If so it does make Bush somewhat of a hypocrite on banning stem cell research which could amoung other things help the infertile.
Hopefully he’s trained to make his move during a commercial break so his wife doesn’t miss anything on TV.
that’s a great one!
i wonder how many evangelicals read it????????
Fixed it for ya! Hope you don’t mind!
I am not so sure Kept Women and their families are all about keeping up appearances. Until the divorce and then the perfect family becomes the neighborhood scandal.
Wow no wonder these right wingers turn out to be perverts and all, their view of women is half Jerry Falwell, half Ted Bundy. Jeez.
Yeah, straight to the bathroom with a dogeared copy of Juggs.
;>)
Supposedly he quit drinking after she issued an ultimatum. Usually that would be a good thing. In this case it would have been better for the country if he had remained a drunk.
aka the 1-handed reading room
what a putz – Dennis how about this – she won’t sleep with you becuase you are awful in bed.
Nothing lower on the planet than the “see what you made me do” folks by the by
Oh heck, I thought you might get a kick out of that now-vintage cover, featured above. Imagine coming across that at a used book store or a library sale, ratty-eared and all.
Heard this on This Is Bluegrass last night.
The Christmas Guest – a message that the likes of Dobson et al seem to have either forgotten or chosen to ignore
I had a male roommate who took Victoria Secrets with him to the water closet.
Where he comes to grips with his tissues, er, issues.
;>)
Catalogs or outfits?
To read or to wear, Mui?
;>)
i thought he quit before or generally at the meeting time of laura. do you have a source fer that?
I think the Dr has Love and Lust confused you do need both to make a marriage work he has lust down. He demands a sex slave now when he wants.
But he is unwilling to give what he expects from his partner in return.
He assumes that Women have less desire for sex than men, some do some don’t he uses that and the different nature of Men and Women to excuse his Sociopathic Behavior.
The Paper
ChaseChafe.What do I think?
I think supposedly hetero right-wingers (lookin’ at you, too, Pastor Rick™!) talk about their barely controllable sex urges in public entirely too much of the time. We need to protect the children from this prurient sex chatter, that’s what I think.
So men are supposed to be satisfied with sex once a month? I don’t think so.
I find this totally appalling….. what about in sickness does this apply?
Doesn’t mean that a woman is barely walking around and she should submit…..
There IS a reason I am no longer married…… and Elmore is a peach….. has been waiting on me hand and foot……. love being spoiled ;)
oh. i see he’s a phd. piled higher & deeper. giddy-yap.
Digg is open, ladies and gentlemen.
I agree, Teddy. Too long have we labored under the printed and televised dirty talk of these filthmongers, seeking innocent ears and eyes into which they can pour their vile fantasies as a stratagem of corruption.
;>)
He met her in ‘77 and supposedly didn’t quit drinking until ‘86. From Wiki.
-um- did you watch? ewwww.
Is there anything in it to read? Right now they keep sending sale catalogs. So I guess the 50% off stuff must make pretty compelling reading.
He is a dry Drunk he still has the habits of a drinker or a problem gambler he just doesn’t drink. He takes increasingly bigger risks instead of increasingly bigger drinks, or bets to get High.
Bush’s attack on Iraq, his economic policy all bets…that have gone bad.
Now its closing time the good times are over and Bush is in Denial that he will have a hangover in the morning.
Heck he might even deny that he is having a hangover since that would imply that he might have to stop being a Conservative/stop drinking the Kool Aid.
Rick Warren, you MUST help this man before he turns gay!
Good angle of attack!
It seems that many here are missing Prager’s point; marriage is rare and special. After all, you’re only going to do it two or three times in your life.
never clean under the bed of a teenager until he’s out of the house and on his own.
Got a link or source for this assertion? Twins occur naturally about once in every 90 births.
You are entitled to sex as often as you want. With a partner… not so much.
Oh boy. Prager wrote a longer, for-pay version of “How a Nice Guy Becomes a Dickhead.”
Here’s the same story, for free, but with a much better ending.
No he’d have it tucked under his arm all rolled up like a newspaper when heading off and then leave it on the floor next to the toilette. His appointment with Victorias secret was a private affair, no spectators allowed.
Yes, for those whom the Sears’ underwear supplement has become unsatisfying for their jaded, worldly tastes.
;>)
that brought tears ta my eyes. btw we don’t git bluegrass way out here on the left coast. sure do miss it.
It is amazing, heteros can talk of sex publicly like they are some kind of heros.
OMG – this is hilarious. beyond the importance of support, companionship, understanding, patience, respect, loyalty, partnership, wit, caring, etc that BT mentions, i’m quite sure the guy has never given a moment’s thought to the idea of sexual pleasure for his partner. wow. just wow.
which we know Rick Warren is *not*. I mean *not* a hero. Not in the least.
thanks.
omg. built-in grab bar for the weak and debilititilated.
Yeah ,I have him diagnosed as one of those men who talks of it like he’s a surgeon and goes at it like a rugby player, while the little women plays dead.
I imagine old pieces of pizza stuck to the floor.
dirtymind leavin’itbehind.
thankgawdforsmallfavours.
Strictly missionary, none of that kinky stuff like ‘woman on top’.
;>)
I maintain that evolution should have made them harder to reach.
now that’s a picture i really don’t want in my mind.
Trying for Snark its speculation and how many twin births occur in families with a history of twins?
I dunno, seems a lot like exercise.
Reminds me of the punchline to a joke.
“Beige. I think a nice shade of beige.”
seinfeld episodes are flashing thru my demented skull like not that there’s anything wrong with that.
Prager is a self-absorbed, Republican asshole. If he has to demand sex from his wife, he married the wrong woman. His assertion that a man is a hero for not cheating on his wife is un-Christian. If a man is married, he is not to cheat. Period. That’s the agreement. A man is not a hero for not cheating. What a fucking Douchenozzle.
counterintuitive.
evolution should have outlawed zippers.
Of course, he invented a bible passage for the purpose of dictating all that nitty gritty stuff.
pach probably wood tell you he wanted it found.
Oh, it’s fairly quick, I’m sure…Cardio never gets a chance to peak, just like a walk from the couch to the refrigerator.
;>)
I did read once (too far gone to retrieve) that Laura had fertility treatments but don’t remember any of the details, in other words don’t know if it was in vitro, or just fertility drugs, nor who the sperm donor was.
Sorry, but I really hate these so-called Prager experts on “women.” It makes me nasty and snarky and nasty.
still laughing so hard i’m crying. i mean, i’ve known some people who think like this – but not only is he not ashamed of his views about women, the asshole has written a book? and people actually buy it and have read it?
Check out WOUB
on Sundays.
oh i’m sorry. i’m so so sorry. really sorry….
So there’s this old joke about 2 guys getting together to compare sex lives. One claimed to know 99 positions, the other 100. So they start enumerating to figure out the missing one. The 99 guy sez let’s start with the usual, the missionary position. The other guy sez what’s that. The 99 guy describes it. The other guy sez: Ha! 101!
Oh, the ceiling trick!
mebbe the powers that think they BE should leave free copies in all hotel rooms….
I think Dennis needs to find himself a good gloryhole emporium and face his true destiny.
Why is it the women who is the problem maybe the Dr lets himself go after Marriage and his wives don’t want him anymore.
But of course Dennis is the answer to a maiden’s prayer — just look for yourselves and see if you don’t agree…
‘Thou shalt avoideth the infernal G-spot, for it makes a wife a wanton and insatiable succubus that might interfereth with the holy sports viewing’
;>)
i was thinkin’ more along the lines of those snapshot kiosks in the mall.
i guess he thinks that living up to promises made, vows taken, etc have nothing to do with family values? nah – i’m going to go out on a limb here and predict that he expects women to not cheat and it’s only the men who not only get a pass, they get to blame their partners.
My boyfriends of the Eastern parts of the world felt that missionary position had more connatations than one.
actually the picture i imagine is pretty hilarious too.
hmmm, like the king james bible.
I think the Dr doesn’t have a problem with sex its a problem with his id his childish self he wants what he wants NOW! Think of little kids who are thirsty banging their cup against the table yelling for milk!
I’m guessing this lack of control is manifest in other areas of his life.
That plus a lack of Empathy.
No matter, well beyond their reach I am certain.
NOTHING, not even C-Span, could make me listen to an accordian in the Senate.
yikes. that thing could shorten yer lifespan.
I hadn’t given much thought to why it was called that, but now that you mention it, yes. Domination, control.
d’oh yuhhhhh!?!
I thought they were all missionary positions. No wait, I’m thinking of e-missions.
Right?!? Is there a dating service that can set him up with his right hand?
That’s a penetrating insight.
;>)
No think of all the religious types who want to convert “Eastern barbarians” of their “unholy” non-king james bible practices.
He’s a Polka Man? Only in Chicago’s ethnic wards could he get elected and even then he would need an ethnic name like Blago!
e’s right-handed? ohhhhh. that explains volumes….
Nothing interesting on cspan. Gonna read for awhile. BBL.
Good, I was afraid I’d gone around the bend.
I’m sorry if I offended any Polka fans out there it is wrong to compare Polka to being a Republican.
If the man were more enterprising, he should concoct a story about golden plates, visiting angels, etc., start a new religion, and POOF…
In my home state, we call that “dating Miss Michigan.”
(hold your right hand flat, palm towards you, relaxed — looks like a rough representation of the lower peninsula of Michigan…)
Well, this is a bawdy bunch. So I can’t blame you. ;->
I have only one thing to say: Mamas, don’t let your babies grow up to be cowboys!
suggestion: send this thread to amazonia.come as custom re-viewers
Not at all, although some might vary with the depth and pressure brought to bear on the topic.
;>)
At the same time, men need to recognize that complete sexual fulfillment is unattainable in this world
From his article. Apparently, you can only have Teh Gay sex in heaven! Until then, torment your unfulfilled, desperately unhappy wife as much as possible. It’s what Jesus would do!
ahem, i was a purrfectly normal puritan until i stumbled and fell into this here Lake.
Actually, in Prager’s book “g-spot” is defined as “Grandma’s house.”
lessee… how many vegans was that? do practice runs count?
Actually that sounds like an accurate Prager-like sentiment. just promise you won’t ghost write his next tome.
the bridge to nowhere…
heaven help me.
i’m beginning to understand more than i ever wanted to.
Me too. I am a prude. I blush at a lot of things. But somehow this self-appointed experts on “females” send me into a different state of mind.
Oh, so that’s where he’s taking his tiny basket?
;>)
Mui: As broke as I am, there’s not enough money in the universe.
winner.
Considering the guy doesn’t think he can have a loving relationship with the wife, who can expect him to have a loving relationship with anyone else? In other words let’s not give Prager drones ideas, on expanding horizons.
Over the hill(s) and through the woods.
Scruples. A rare thing. And I admire that.
…Then he was spotted by a big, bad MILF who ate him all up…But found the meal somewhat unsatisfactory.
;>)
what a poor empty cold and unfeeling little man. now that i’m done laughing, i kinda feel sorry for him.
i’d never pass a lie detector test on any subject.
my mind too quickly determines why the questioner is asking anything and everything, and the blush is automatic in response to what i surmise he thinks i might be thinking.
hopeless dweeb: guilty.
but then… anger button is lodged right next to ludicrous/laughter on my mental keyboard.
apologies in advance. but it’s already too late for me. it’s a small wonder why i haven’t been banned from this nicely buttoned-up site, heh.
as an effortlessly monogamous first-marriage hubby I have no insights on this matter…
Post on Abu and Uncle Dick. It’s seems such a long time since we’ve heard much on Abu.
well. that blasts that theory out of the watercloset.
substitute wifey & ya got me.
i figured herrn-hauthor gots one and only one true love: hisownself.
eh?
substitute wifey & ya got me.
ooh, now you’re sounding kinky… :~)
Prager’s claims to be a theologian and philosopher…but has no academic background in either. He was raised as an Orthodox Jew, and attended Brooklyn College, where he majored in Anthropology and History. He matriculated in 1970. From 1970-72, Prager attended the Columbia University School of International Affairs, within the Russian and Middle East Institutes (now the Harriman Institute). He studied under Dr. Zbigniew Brzezinski. But he has no advanced degree, Prager did not complete his Masters program, dropping out instead in 1973 to collaborate with High School friend, Joseph Telushkin, on an popular book about Judaism. He’s taught at various Yeshiva schools. Perhaps one of them has given him an honorary or other degree?
i thot a that possibility just after posting.
dang. & u just HAD ta pounce on it.
BAD BOY! DOWN. SIT. STAY
ain’t that kinda goil.
why, that describbles 3/4 of the clientele of the Lake’s clear waters.
hmmmmm.
we could probably write a better book using refrigerator magnets…
hey, if you’re gonna lob softballs up there…
anyway, just pulling your leg.
(oops, that doesn’t work either)…
Many of Bush’s problems comes from his 10-Step philosophy that he used to quit drinking, I suspect. Look at how SOME of those programs deal with people in serious problems…the surveillance, lack of trust, authoritarian bullying based on “a higher power”, fear, and the idea that if someone fails its their fault for not having the proper relationship with God. Conversely, if you do have such a relationship, then everything in the world is deservedly yours.
hapless, helpless, & hopeless, but happy.
wishing u the same. ;->
oh shoot. that don’t work eider, atall atall….. mgbzogbwowonky ZOT!
[now, if that means somethin’, i didn’t mean it. i’s gonna go read like nice-n-steady eCAHN up there in the library.] *poof*
Here’s my not so subtle take on the whole thing: If you want to have an affair, go have an affair. How are anyone’s sexual habits my concern? And here’s another clue for the self-rightous: Unlike Orca Winfrey, who seems to think it’s OK when a woman has an affair but not when a man does, I’m equal opportunity not-give-a-shitter.
happy trails!
P. E. A. C. E.
L. O. V. E.
P.R.O.A.C.T.I.V.E. K.I.N.D.N.E.S.S.
… but you knew that. ;->
So the Dr is honory what a crock!
Yeah, like when Chris Rock talks about guys bragging about paying their child support in time. WTF?