Comments on: In Support Of Choice

By: Telebro

Telebro — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 02:54:16 +0000

Thanks for making a critical issue clear.

People who have never wrestled personally with abortion have nothing at risk. They can bravely make any claim about what they would do, or what other people should do.

It is that way with every issue. I was a correctional chaplain for 30 years, and listened to many politicians rant that we should lock up inmates and throw away the key. However, when their child ended up in prison, they wanted every service and program that they had voted against.

Poverty is a crisis for people that live there, but it is meaningless to people that have multiple houses or sugar mommas. We have to keep telling the stories of the high sacrifice people, and not let the comfortable call us a nation of whiners.

By: Rayne

Rayne — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 02:29:49 +0000

Christy — thanks for hunting down that link, sorry I wasn’t here earlier to thank you. I’ve spent a lot of time looking for that over the last 6 months, appreciate you taking the time.

By: ScarlettA

ScarlettA — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 02:00:52 +0000

How important it is to share these stories. A group of us in McHenry County, Illinois have worked as reproductive rights activists since about 1990. We are all volunteers and find strength in both our activism and our friendships. It would be great to see grassroots pro-choice groups sprout up everywhere. The antis organize in churches, and it seems more difficult to organize on the prochoice side. Our website is at http://www.mcccprochoice.org. We’re always interested in hearing from other activists!

By: PJEvans

PJEvans — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 02:00:00 +0000

Something similar happened to one of my cousins: their first child died of a rare genetic condition; they adopted two baby brothers after that, and then had one of their own (that I know of).

By: carol

carol — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 01:43:03 +0000

I’ve been told that happens often - a couple gives up or decides to adopt - and then there your are….

De-lurking to say that lots of people believe this but it isn’t true. Previously infertile adoptive parents do not concieve at a higher rate than infertile adoptive parents who do not adopt. I just seems like that from the outside because infertility is a very private thing. You do not know which of your friends had trouble concieving unless they chose to tell you, but an adoptive family is out there for everyone to see.

Spreading this myth around is hurtful to adoptive families. Adoptive children and their families do not want to be seen as a way to a biological child. If a baby happens, it happens, but it is not a reason to adopt and for adoptive parents it is not always welcome.

By: recoveringlurker

recoveringlurker — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 00:57:40 +0000

Christy,

Thanks for the beautiful post. “The Peanut,” like her parents, is also “Mighty.” Enjoy.

By: wavpeac

wavpeac — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 00:52:34 +0000

One of the number one reasons why women have abortions, besides health reasons, is because she gets pregnant by a violent or abusive man and fears having his child. This isn’t given much press. People don’t quite no what to do with this one. The number one most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when she is pregnant. The number one cause of death for pregnant women is domestic violence, more so than car accidents.

This fact, this reality needs to be dealt with. It cannot be swept under the rug. It’s not just dangerous to bring a baby to term because of physiology. It is also dangerous depending on who the father is. For some women the father might be most likely to kill her while pregnant. For others it means tying herself to a man who is likely to use the child to continue to abuse her for many years and may also abuse the child. Since violent men have a higher risk of child abuse as well.

These realities are way different than the teenager having too much fun in the back seat of a car with a guy her own age.

That’s a myth.

By: camartinwv

camartinwv — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 00:38:21 +0000

Christy, thank you so very much for saying what I have wanted to say for decades. I have been in that little ball of crying that you speak of and it is an awful, hurtful place to be. You are a very brave woman for speaking about it and you have a great deal of courage to do what you and I know was the right thing. I am hoping women like you and I can protect the choice for your daugher (5) and my daughter (25). Thank you again.

By: Twain

Twain — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 00:12:37 +0000

Not only reinforcing their faith but assuring them that they are right. They seem to feel that if all people don’t believe as they do that there’s a slight possibility that they are wrong and it scares them to death.

By: nahant

nahant — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 00:11:36 +0000

Thank you Christy for such a wrenchingly painful post!! It must have pained you to no end to write this but you came up with the courage to write this. Everyone of your points are how I have felt for years(never mind I have four sisters abs three daughters) for many many years it is never the states or any else’s business what a woman does with the only body she has. The next thing they will want to do if they can control women’s bodies ti to be able to tell us how to believe in God and what religion YOU MUST adhere to. These people make me sick, just who do they think they are to think it is their concern what any=one else does as long as it does not involve breaking existing LAWS!
Keep my constitution just as it is and if it needs to be changed go though the process which takes a two thirds vote!!

Again Christy thans for such a wonderful post!!