In the words of Charles Dickens:
And numerous indeed are the hearts to which Christmas
brings a brief season of happiness and enjoyment. How many
families, whose members have been dispersed and scattered far
and wide, in the restless struggles of life, are then reunited, and
meet once again in that happy state of companionship and mutual
goodwill, which is a source of such pure and unalloyed delight;
and one so incompatible with the cares and sorrows of the world,
that the religious belief of the most civilised nations, and the rude
traditions of the roughest savages, alike number it among the
first joys of a future condition of existence, provided for the
blessed and happy! How many old recollections, and how many
dormant sympathies, does Christmas time awaken!
We write these words now, many miles distant from the spot
at which, year after year, we met on that day, a merry and joyous
circle. Many of the hearts that throbbed so gaily then, have
ceased to beat; many of the looks that shone so brightly then,
have ceased to glow; the hands we grasped, have grown cold; the
eyes we sought, have hid their lustre in the grave; and yet the old
house, the room, the merry voices and smiling faces, the jest,
the laugh, the most minute and trivial circumstances connected
with those happy meetings, crowd upon our mind at each
recurrence of the season, as if the last assemblage had been but
yesterday! Happy, happy Christmas, that can win us back to the
delusions of our childish days; that can recall to the old man the
pleasures of his youth; that can transport the sailor and the
traveller, thousands of miles away, back to his own fireside and
his quiet home!
(The Pickwick Papers, Chapter 28)
The other day a friend and I were discussing the fact that Christmas is the only time of year when we go buy a dessicated highly resinous conifer and bring it into our homes, swathe it in cheap electrical wires and bits of plastic and mylar, stand it up next to a fireplace (if we have one), surround it with a kindling pile of cardboard boxes wrapped in shiny paper, and then light a whole bunch of candles. It inspired me to burst into song. "It's the most flam-ma-ble tiiiiiime of the yeeeeeear..."
"Well," said my friend, "You've got to make sure to instill the season with the most potential heartbreak and pathos. And nothing does that quite like burning down your house on Christmas Eve."
So, can I see a show of hands in the house? How many of you hate Christmas? How many of you look upon this season with a mixture of dread and self loathing, knowing that all of the ways in which you are inadequate, financially and otherwise are about to be unavoidably brought to your attention? Who else here hears the keening dog-whistle of anxiety start up around Halloween and gradually increase in volume and intensity until your ears are bleeding by about Christmas Eve? Ah, yes. I thought so.
It's okay. Take a deep breath. It's just eight more days.
However, I am going to make a pledge to you guys. This year, I am going to try to do my best to embrace the positive aspects of the season. I am going to take this next week to really be grateful for my awesome family and to try and bring as much happiness and joy to the people who I love as I possibly can. Generally, this time of year makes me really sad, but I am going to really try and keep keep it out of the ditch this year. I intend to love this pagan festival of light and renewal for what it is. A time to eat carbs and shine pretty lights in the darkness. A time to pray for the souls who have passed and to cherish the love of the ones who are still here with us in spite of our best efforts to make them insane and/or drive them away. (Hooray for enablers!)
Anybody with me? Come on! It'll be great.
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Ho-ho-ho, TRex!
Moi first???
TREX!!!
(and a Fitz…and a ho, ho, ho!)
Tea anyone?
Happy Chriskwanakah-solstice, Trex! : )
And I’m with ya TRex ~ hard to remember what this time of year is *supposed* to be all about amongst the commercialized blitz society starts tossing our way now oh when….around Easter???
But in the end we have but ultimately our attitudes. And to consciously make the decision to celebrate this time of year with love and appreciation can only put some desperately needed positive energy into the world. So count me in…I’m with ya…
OK, on a more serious note…
I said this earlier on DKos, and I’ll say it here:
MERRYGREGIOUS!!
Peace on Earth.
Good will towards Man.
bold theropod, against WCoast Survivor!
TRex @ 6
Is that especially for Egregious? : )
I’m pretty ambivalent. Love the time with family and friends, the parties, the food! But I do admit to considerable anxiety about getting the right (and affordable) gifts. Last year I asked everyone to give me rabbits, chickens, cows, etc., from Heifer International, and they did. But the rest of the crew hasn’t followed suit–sigh!
Suzanne @ 7
And woman.
EvilDrPuma @ 11
Heh. Indeedy!
It doesn’t get much better than Al Green and Annie Lennox in one song. Vocally, anyway. This arrangement is pretty 80’s.
EvilDrPuma @ 11
I should have typed Mankind. Sorry for the confusion.
EvilDrPuma @ 11
And everyone. : )
atdnext @ 9
At Xmas, we are all egregious.
One year I was in a real bad way. Morose even. So I went and did some work for the folks at the shelter. Instant cure and the best thing I ever did.
Merry Christmas T-Rex and all firepups.
TRex @ 13
Was that “Scrooged!” in the background?
And Tiny Tim, too?
TRex @ 16
Ain’t that the truth! : )
Suzanne @ 14
No worries. Ladies, gentlemen, and seven-ton theropods, a happy holiday to one and all! And may the next year bring joy and political validation.
To me, the value of Christmas is mostly about childhood memories. Does the smell of smoke from an American Flyer locomotive or the smell of sugar cookies in the oven do anything for ya? I also remember listening to my parent’s 78 rpm Christmas records. I hope my kids have Christmas memories.
I got my Christmas present early. Did you hear T-Rex?
Bah, humbug. People take a really good reason to celebrate–”Hey the days are getting longer!”–and ruin it by injecting all the extra crap. Have fun, drink, be merry! These are the reasons for the season.
Oilfieldguy @ 23
No, I haven’t heard. What is it?
My family has ignored the gift-giving aspect of Christmas for eight years. We concentrate on getting together and eating good food. Now there’s a new generation, so the kids get presents. But in a *very* limited amount.
This eliminates all the stress, but keeps the traditions that are important to the family. And it also eliminates that horrible let-down feeling after Christmas *and* there’s no tree/lights to take down and pack up.
I spent most of the weekend wrapping and sending off presents [not too expensive]. Other than that, we’re going to keep it pretty low key this year. We decided we could get by without a tree.
But the part about food is certainly true. Went to the grocery store today and brought back more goodies than I had planned.
What’s everybody’s favorite holiday food?
Oh, and would anyone like a taste of eggnog?
Indeed. Subliminal Dickens tie-in moment.
Hey- the kids and a few friends come over- we have at least two fantastic meals and a good time…What’s not to like? It’s only depressing if you are expecting the earth to move.
Oh, and would anyone like a taste of eggnog?
Yes, please, it will go well with the egg on my face.
The flaming tree is the Original Christmas tree. Some pagan figured out when the winter solstice was and told the townspeople the sun was going away and they needed to light a big tree on fire on the highest hill to spread the flame to the sun, giving it a boost.
Slowly, the days grew longer and the stature of the pagan grew as a savior. Smart sumbitch if you ask me.
Suzanne @ 30
Wonderful. Care for a shot of Bacardi Gold with that?
neuro, yes please, a double shot please.
TRex @ 25
An 8lb 8oz. 20″ Grandson named Brando. Real kewl and shiny.
Turkey!
I love it.
Especially cold from a ziploc bag in the fridge. I don’t know why.
Okay, here’s the scoop–I’m trying to surprise my Mom with a different sort of Christmas gift. And, this *should* actually come as a surprise, because it’s something Mom put on her wish list *last* year, but that I wasn’t able to do. She asked that a gift be given in her name to Heifer International. This is the sort of person Mom is–she’s a puppy raiser for Canine Companions for Independence, which I wrote about in Saying goodbye to big puppy-dog eyes and again in Larkin’s graduation. Click here to see the gift catalog. On my own, I could give a flock of chicks or some honeybees in Mom’s honor, but I really want to give my mama a llama. Isn’t that fun to say? And the Llama Song is fun to listen to but it will get in your head live there for a long time.
But, (straining for the segue here) a donation to Heifer will last even longer. If you aren’t familiar with Heifer International, I really encourage you to visit their site and learn more. Maybe you’ll do what I typically do–read about their work and file this away as a good idea to act upon at some point in the future. But if you do feel moved to donate now, doing so via this page would help me give my Mom a special and memorable Christmas present.
Oilfieldguy @ 31
Saviors usually are. Too bad so few of them turn out to be equally scrupulous (Sun Myung Moon, I’m looking at you).
Oilfieldguy @ 34
Congratulations, OFG. I had not heard.
I thought you were going to say your early present was walking away alive from that little mishap with the cable on the highway.
OFG: An 8lb 8oz. 20″ Grandson named Brando. Real kewl and shiny.
Congratulations, Oilfieldguy! Grandchildren are the best!
TRex @ 35
Turkey sandwiches saved our backsides for the last part of November. And I still haven’t gotten tired of them. Some mayo, spicy mustard, Swiss, a bit of pickle…yummy!
HOORAY!! Congratulations, Grandpa OFG!!
Now, you have to wait until spring to take it outside and play with it.
He was born the next day. Glad I’m here to enjoy it.
Just reminded me I’ve forgotten my annual renting of Home for the Holidays with Holly Hunter and Robert Downey Jr. ;-)
The sister with whom I don’t speak stopped by today, dropped off presents, with excessively hyper nephew in tow. They are flying off next weekend to visit my parents. Imagine my relief.
Only a slight pang of guilt, too, along with a nagging headache from clenching my jaw this afternoon.
And now I can get on with concentrating on the holiday hassle with the other side of the family, surly brother-in-law and bitchy sister-in-law, demanding widowed sister-in-law, more hyper as well as moody children, disabled MIL…
It’s like this for virtually all of us, Home for the Holidays. Just have to go with the flow and look for those little shiny glinting moments like my kids’ happiness when they hit the snow in the grandparents’ backyard with their cousins.
OhioTex @ 38
All the joy and none of the disciplining. Or so my parents tell me.
TRex @ 34
In the middle of the night, early in the morning… anytime at all, right out of the bag.
yummy.
I don’t know why, either.
OilFieldGuy - WOOHOO!
now that’s one cool present!
does he come with accessories?
Oilfieldguy @ 34
Oops, I didn’t remember to do this in the earlier thread…
Congrats, OFG! : ) : ) : )
He was born in BobbyG’s neck of the woods, Lost Wages. I’m heading out there next Friday to meet the little guy.
OFG, that’s wonderful. And Brando is a really cool name too.
One of the reasons this Xmas is special is you, TRex, and FDL. So I’ll not be depressed. I promise.
TRex @ 35
Or in my case, leftover vegan Italian Sausage!
It goes great with pita and hummus, trust me! : )
OFG 41 — somebody certainly worked hard the day before the birthday to make sure you were on hand for the special event. There must be some pretty big things you’re supposed to do yet before you can cash in your chits.
Cable? Highway? What?
Somebody please fill me in.
We have our giant food extravaganza on Christmas Eve. And it’s all high-fat, high-calorie yummie stuff. I make giant plates of many types of appetizers, and that’s what we eat instead of a sit-down meal.
Yes I know, there is PLENTY of wretched music written for Christmas. There is also some brilliant stuff. There is nothing written for any of the other church holidays that even comes close. I started to enjoy Christmas when I started to concentrate on the lovely sentiments captured by the musicians and started to ignore the merchandisers.
The Messiah: I have four recordings and while all are fine, my favorite is by Musica Sacra, conducted by Richard Westenburg. Just the right amount of baroque ornamentation and Judith Blegen is the soprano. Simply superb!
Bach’s Christmas Oratorio. My favorite is by the Netherlands Bach Society conducted by Veldhoven. I also like the version by the Akademie Fur Alte Musik Berlin conducted by Rene Jacobs. While this second recording is utterly flawless, it is sung by all males. I always sang in choirs because I LOVE the sound of female voices but if you like boy sopranos, this might be your recording of choice.
And hands down, my favorite carol is “Oh Day Full of Grace” arr. by F. Melius Christianson. Either a recording by the St. Olaf or Concordia choirs will do just fine, thank you very much.
Oddly enough, even though I have spent much of my life in choirs, my very favorite Christmas piece is purely orchestral–the Shephard’s Sinfonia from the Bach Christmas Oratorio. It is possibly the most beautiful piece of music ever written.
Siun @ 45
Well, his papa is a union sheetmetal worker/biker and his mama (my daughter) is a tattoo artist so it prolly won’t be long!
We always seem to buy a much larger turkey than we can eat in one sitting, so I try to have enough dressing and gravy and sweet potatoes and cranberry sauce on hand so that they will all last as long as the turkey does.
As long as I have all those ingredients, I don’t get tired of the turkey.
neurophius @ 56
There’s NEVER enough gravy. How do you do it?
OhioTex @ 58
Buy extra packets–and then buy one more.
And hide some of them for later.
The Family Balrog has mixed feelings about X-Mas.
We end up dutifully going to my parents place for X-Mas day. There’s is a sicker version of Festivus, including the ‘Fly-by Kiss’, in which no lip or cheek contact is made though sometimes a weird ’smacking’ noise will disguise the near-miss-kiss.
Also the yearly dissing of the Grandkids occurs, since my Mom only likes Republican kids. My 3 don’t qualify, so they are right out. Two of my brothers are from the MegaChurch scene, so apparently their kids have been washed clean by the holy water enough to be favored. Course my kids are fine with that; they don’t want an an air-kiss from Morganna anyway.
At dinner there is the ‘PIM’, which is the Prayer Involvement Measurement. I received low marks last year for playing Solitaire on my Treo while pretending to pray. Note to self: turn the little beeps off this year.
Usually at this point in the evening the Bourbon is affecting the Holy more than the experienced livers worn by Balrogs. Jesus weeps at about this time, for me and my flock who prefer Nintendo to Veggie Tales.
Ah, but at gift time! Each of the kids receive a printout from ETrade, showing that Grandma put another $500 into their education accounts. My 15 year old should have close to $1500 for her education by the time she heads off! The little guys head back to Nintendo, muttering ‘Fucking lame Gramma is SO clueless’.
Then we’ll no doubt argue about the political winds; I Balrog will coat them with logic; the morons will spew FOX Truthiness back at me. And nod at each other acknowledging their ‘God Blessed’ attack and how it smote me and cast my ruins upon the mountainside below.
But the memories, Oh! the memories. Last year Grandma Munster tried to make Li’l Rog kiss her goodbye. He did what any good 5 year old FDL’er would do: He hauled off and socked her right in the eye.
THAT is what memories are made of.
I snag those gravy packets by the handful. If I have less than 5 on the shelf, I snag another handful next time I am at the store.
jeffreyw @ 24
Pagans!
You know, I honestly cannot think of anything material that I wish for, and have not for years now.
I have enough; in fact, I have more than enough stuff.
I want good health for those I love, healing for those that hurt and suffer, and for us to stop killing.
I want the troops home with their families.
I want those in our government that perpetrated all of this evil to be punished. I want our rights and Constitution and laws restored.
I want us to say we were wrong, we’re sorry, pay reparations, engage honestly with people, develop our own energy and stop abusing other people and the planet.
I want us to live up to America’s promise and develop our humility and humanity.
Oh dear, Balrog, the Grammy discriminates against progressive grandchildren?
Agh. That’s rough.
OFG - I love the pic!
My son’s partner runs a tatoo and piercing parlor but they have no kid plans … still I can relate!
mazel tov!
Balrog @
60
[snip xmas bullshit]
And you subject yourself to this,why, exactly?
This is your choice, to do this. You can change it at any time. Make your own reality, Balrog. Grow a spine and tell ‘em all to fuck off.
Hear, hear, Angie!
Now I’m off to bed. Got to get up and find those gravy packets tomorrow. G’nite all.
angie @ 63
I relate. And I agree with your list, but never would have come up with it myself. I always say what I want is *time*, but instead, it just seems to go by even faster. It’s not really Christmas already next week is it? I’m dreaming this, right?
If Christmas inspires you to post awesome vids like Annie and Al together, it must touch some little happy button in that t-rex heart. Loved it. You inspired me to break out of my usual reticent lurker mode. Just had to say thanks!
I’m recalling something I heard years ago, done by a Scottish traditional Celtic singer. He wondered what Christmas had been like for his parents and family when they were young, so he started working on an oral history of family and neighbors of Christmas in Scotland in the `20s and `30s.
The result was quite illuminating. The most remembered Christmas presents were oranges. And the holiday was not that special. If it came on a workday, people were generally at work from 6 a.m. until about 9 or so, they’d go home and take the family to church services, then return home for a meal and a rather hasty and brief bit of gift-giving that usually involved something they normally did without, and then would go back to work around noon.
That it’s become the sort of holiday that it is now (accepting that part of that is wretched excess :) ) is in large part due to the efforts of organized labor–paid holidays, 40-hour work weeks that brought more people into the middle class work force and enabled more time and money to go shopping.
If I had a wish for Christmas, it would be that more people, here and in the rest of the world, could enjoy those same benefits.
angie, I love your wish list. I want those things too.
Every year people demand to know what I want for Christmas. I am usually at a loss to tell them. I have tried to convince family members that Christmas presents are for kids, not adults. But they won’t listen.
zarramamma @ 68
Oh, any time you want Annie Lennox just ask. I’m kind of a pathetic fanboy for her.
Re Christmas: I am a believing Christian, with all my children coming home to be with us, and it’s still ridiculously hard this month. This coming week…I am just trying to keep my head above water.
Have to severely limit thinking and posting about the war, which makes me scream.
Trying to stay calm. Failing, but trying.
Annie rocking out live.
TRex @ 6
:)
I honestly don’t care for the holidays. I don’t like the disruption to routine. Yes, I prefer routine!
TRex @ 71
OMG, so am I…
In fact, I’m in the process of downloading another one of her songs onto my MP3!
TRex, you have such great taste! : )
oh, montag– my bestest memories of my childhood were the oranges and walnuts in my stocking…
and the sweaters my grandmother knitted wrapped in bundles smelling of my grandfather’s cigars.
All while Mom and Dad hugged us and smiled and loved us…
That’s what I am looking forward to next Monday– their hugs and smiles and love.
Guitar_Playing_Bastard @ 66
I’ve thought of this, GPB. Over and over.
Bottom line is that we don’t wat to hurt anyone, including the people that we hate.
I know you take issue with that wussiness, GPB, and that’s OK. But the bottom line is that we are kind people and thoughtful parents. Everything we do is for the kid’s benefit.
And they end up appreciating it, while at the same time figuring out that ‘Grandma and Grandpa Johnson are weird. And sometimes they are really mean!’
As for your ’snip XMas bullshit’, I want my kids to be able to imagine that someone flying around wants to give them toys, not bombs.
atdnext @ 9
I don’t care. I’m taking it anyway.
egregious @ 72
Would it cheer you up at all to know that I am wishing random people on the street a Merrygregious?
TRex @ 16
Well then, I don’t feel so alone.
I was looking for my “incident” report on a previous thread for ya’ T-Rex, but my research skill really suck.
Suffice it to say a cable stretched across the interstate caused me some anxiety and virtually scalped my big truck.
Could have been real bad.
atdnext @ 9
egregious @ 74
Egregious!!!!
I was wondering when you’d chime in. ; )
TRex @ 81
An actual laugh out loud.
Ok now I’m going to bed.
I’m with you on the delicate Christmas balancing act, egregious. Except we’re the ones traveling rather than expecting visitors. Trying to keep some peace at my center, but it’s difficult as the energy level around me (kids) begins to ramp up.
Xmas next week?…yawn…what the hell happened to the 4th of July?…zzzzzzz.
TRex @
13
Love the cross-cutting. Were they ever actually on the same continent?
OhioTex @
39
Grandkids are the absolute best, you can always say you forgot how to change diapers. Congrats, OFG, isn’t it neat to be an ancestor? My most recent granddaughter (#3) was born Nov 30. Shall we arrange them a marriage?
techno,
I’ll have to listen to that carol, it isn’t familiar to me.
One of my favorites is The Carol of the Birds.
Patrick 4/4 @ 88
Somewhere out there at some point I saw video of the two of them recording the song together, but I think the video had to be done separately, unfortunately. It would be great to watch the two of them cut up together.
One fact has not fully sunk in with me this year. But I’m sure it will.
Last year, the “kids” were all over 21. Things were pretty calm.
Then two of the “kids” got married over the summer. In three months, I went from having no grandchildren to having four [step-step] grandchildren. Ranging in age from about 3 to 12.
It should be interesting.
Lit the third night Chanuka candles and went back to reading “The God Delusion” - which my wife bought me for Chanuka.
Moving from family Christmas to FDLamily x?-mas, I have been awed all weekend by how much I feel for everyone here.
As you all know I was a tad disillusioned in November. The response to my abject whining not only brought me back, but led me to the conclusion:
I don’t know who in the fuck you people are, but do you wanna come over for some Hash Brownies and Everclear?
I love this place. And you. Well, not you so much. YOU! I like.
I’m so happy to know you good people.
xoxo
neurophius @ 93
wow.
you and yours are blessed.
Funny you should post on Christmas tonight.
There was a rally against marriage equality in New Bedford Mass 2 weeks ago. I joined a counter protest that actually outnumbered the homophobes by a good 20%. Anyway, my sign read, “This Christmas: Peace and Love on Earth for Everyone.”
Ironically, tonight was the last night of these mini-rallies against gay marriage. The head of Catholic Citizens Group, one of the organizers of these events, attacked a counter protester.
I just find that an interesting comparison. Hate vs. Love. People against marriage equality vs. gay people, their legally married spouses, their friends and their family. I guess some Catholics have a little left to learn about Jesus’s messages right in the midst of Christmas season.
Hey Grandpa OFG,
Congrats and wishing you much happiness.
————egregious
Balrog @ 95
We’re Time’s person of the year, have you heard?
Balrog @ 95
Do we have to leave our computers in a bowl when we arrive? Drinking and commenting do not mix.
Funny thing is I have been exposed to Christmas more this year by FDL than all other sources combined.
I first began severing the ties of christmas at 15. By my early twenties the guilt slinging was over. This year I have not heard a single song or ad and have only seen a couple of houses with lights. I don’t get to town much these days and am much better off. Talk about peace of mind and spirit. I’m starting to get used to it. :~}
Just waiting for the next cold front to move in so I may resume with the delicious winter recipes. Hot apple cake anyone?
Patrick 4/4 @ 94
Patrick, there is some irony here, but I think it’s all right.
Balrog @
79
I meant the Xmas family bullshit.
My family was worse than that. Drunk. Violent. nasty in the worst sorts of white trash ways you can imagine, despite not living in trailers.
It came to a head six years ago, my rage-addicted mother was drunk on Xmas eve, and saying wretched, hateful things to my beloved, who at the time was very new on the scene.
Without another word, beloved and I left. I’d had it. what’s worse, my sister was chiming in wither her two cents worth. And lest you think these were young people, at the time my mother was 74 and my sister 49.
I have not spoken to them since, nor do I intend to. After a while, you have to take care of yourself, and in doing so, you will take care of your children.
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve lost all patience with those who would do their best to destroy me, my relationships and my life. Those who bring me peace, happiness and friendship are welcome.
Think of it for a minute. Are Grandma and Grandpa setting an example for your kids you want them to see? Are your kids being served by exposing them to that kind of ridicule, not only for them but for you?
You say you don’t want to hurt anyone. Shouldn’t that begin with you and your kids?
TRex @
35
Turkey sandwiches. On white bread, which I otherwise loathe. With mayo, dressing and cranberry sauce. Yeah.
They said it was me. (But I’ve heard they tell everybody that.)