There are few things that I know with certainty in life, but of this I am sure: the woman featured in the above YouTube is a kick-ass survivor and a heroine. And so is Melissa Etheridge, who sings the song that plays in the background -- it never fails to bring a tear or two to my eyes, because my mother is a breast cancer survivor, and I'm at a much higher risk for the disease myself, having already found one precancerous, golf-ball-sized lump that had to be excised.
Far too often, women take care of everyone else around them, but forget to take care of themselves. Let this serve as a reminder to all our female readers to put on their oxygen mask first, so that you can better take care of those around you: take that nap that you need, take a few minutes with a cup of tea and have a breather. Eat healthier. Get a little exercise. Go see your doctor for a regular exam. And do a BSE every month. (In my minds' eye, I can see my husband shaking his head as he reads this, because I am THE WORST about taking care of myself. So take a moment and ask your partner, your husband, your family to help you take time for yourself...they'll all be better for it, and so will you. Mr. ReddHedd is amazing about that for me, and I'm quite grateful.)
I found my lump through a BSE when The Peanut was only three months of age -- scariest thing that ever happened in my life, because we had just been given the miracle that we'd always dreamed of having and I was facing down the potential void of losing that dream just as it became real. I was lucky -- we caught things early, before it had even turned cancerous and begun to metastisize.
But now I get a mammogram every single year. No excuses. And a pap smear (as the YouTube above shows, ovarian and uterine cancers are nothing to sneeze at either...no cancer is, but the earlier you catch it, the better for you). And whatever else my doctor says we need to do to be certain that I am healthy.
I have a lot to live for these days. And so do you. So please, consider this a request from a friend: it's a marathon you want to run, not a sprint, so take the time for appropropriate care along the way. And, as it is breast cancer awareness month, be sure you've had your annual exam...and that you are doing those self checks every single month. It could save your life.
(And this goes for the men in the audience as well. The rate of breast cancer in men is rising -- keep that in mind, please, and do a self-exam for yourself.)
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Thanks, Christy.
I’ve lost too many friends to cancer…
Fitz! and I second that, angie. friends AND family.
Universal health care would be a big help toward making early detection more likely.
Thankx Christy, a great reminder. My wife hasn’t been to the OBGYN in a few years, mostly due to other health issues. But I’m gonna pester her about it until she goes.
Jon Tester’s got 2 kick-ass ads posted over at Kos.
http://www.dailykos.com/story/2006/10/15/9237/0729
This is important. Also for the men - especially young men - feel your balls :) . Testicular self-exam is important, though rare, testicular cancer is the most common cancer in men 15-44.
We men can help significantly, reminding our wives, partners, mothers, etc. about BSE, helping our lover (a lovely sport), and generally encouraging the loves of our life.
And we need to pay attention to the little details in ourselves. I am soooooo damned healthy that I ignored the creeping fatigue and a few other signs. Now I get to start radiation in a couple of weeks for my October-suprise throat cancer. That I’m healthy and fit will make a huge difference, but, bottom line, pay attention!
Lost my best buddy this last summer to cancer. We’ve known each other since early high school. We rode the freight trains together in California as teens. Went to Beach Boy concerts in Sacramento. Did Santa Cruz spring breaks together. Stole watermelons together out of farmers fields in Salinas. We rumbled together. We competed on the dance floor. His sis was my sweetie. Danny and me. BMOC’s. Danny; letter man supreme. Danny; indestructible. Danny; gone.
marksb at 7 — hugs to you and yours, and know that we’re all hoping for nothing but the best for you in this. You are such a kick ass fella…
Can anyone recommend a good, conservative dissection of the final torture bill? (One that actually tells the truth, I mean.)
Talking last night with my libertarian father-in-law, I assumed he might be upset by Bush’s eradication of habeas corpus. His reaction: Whaaa?
He had no idea. None. He was under the impression that habeas corpus is being denied only to foreign terrorists. (Which prompted my husband to shout from the other room: “Stop watching so much Fox, Dad!)
Anyway, me being a big ’ol liberal (he calls me his favorite Communist), my father-in-law doesn’t buy my assertions about the bill. I promised to find him some documentation, which he agreed to read it.
Anything from the NYT, Washington Post or any other news organ of repute will, however, be dismissed as liberal clap-trap. I need a source he trusts. Struck out at the Cato Institute. Any suggestions?
P.S. One silver lining. He’s a Connecticut resident. Says he not voting for anyone in the Senate race.
Crying while listening and reading. Thanks, Redd.
This post, did you write it just for me? My mom is not a breast cancer survivor. She fought for almost 20 years and then one day she said, “I’m too tired to fight anymore. Do y’all mind if I don’t get anymore chemo?”
MIND??!?!
Well, it was either let her go with love and all the support we could muster or watch her , now at 86 lbs., suffer every day with chemo poisoning, nausea, vertigo, bed sores and terrible, terrible pain.
We let her go. The experience was one I will never forget. But now, with a 7 year old walnut of my own, I am self-forgetting again. (For anyone who knows the enneagram, self forgetting is one of the hallmarks of the 9 personality, c’est moi.)
Thanks for the reminder, Christy. I, too, had a lump removed from my right breast, but it was not precancerous. Monday morning I’ll make my appointment.
Bless you and your mom.
Thanks for the tip about men and the rate of breast cancer rising for us. I did not know about that. I have two aunts who are sisters and survivers, one who had it twice.
I’ll have to talk to my docotor about this. A little information goes a long way.
Speaking of Universal Healthcare - when I was canvassing for Lamont yesterday - I stopped at the house of a naturalized citizen from India. At first he said that all politicians are the same and no one cares. I kept talking to him about how Lamont was different.
He then asked me to come around to his back door - he wanted me to meet his daughter. I did. She was a beautiful little girl in a wheelchair. He told me that no one cares about them or his daughter - no one was there to help him.
He was clearly a professional and he owned a lovely house. But then he told me he had lost a good paying job, and was now making half as much. That his daughter had to live downstairs so she had access to a bathroom. I told him how important universal healthcare was - and discussed with him why Lamont supported it, i.e. as a businessman - he had seen the negative impact on businesses trying to provide health insurance businesses which is less and less affordable every year.
We talked for about 10, 15 minutes. By the end of the conversation he was talking about how even if Joe was a good man (gaaaak) he lost the primary and he shouldn’t be running against the winner. And he said he would be voting for Ned.
Healthcare - the cost, inaccessibility, etc. impacts EVERYONE. The need for good, affordable healthcare coverage for every person, every child, etc. is key to the health of our families, our economy, our society.
And, Christy, I’m so glad to hear you advocate annual checkups. Regular checkup save lives - I’m sure we all have examples of friends and/or family (or ourselves) who had unknown problems uncovered by a simple, regular check.
Mommybrain at 11 — hugs, hon. It definitely runs in my family — I lost two second cousins within a few years of each other when I was a very tiny girl. But I come from a long line of strong-willed, kick-ass women who live into their 90s…and I plan on being one of those myself, one of these days. ;-) Do take care of yourself — you are important to all the rest of us.
marksb @ 7
Best wishes to marksb — and I couldn’t agree more about the need to support/encourage one’s partner/loved ones to pursue regular checkups.
Christy — excellent post. It’s important for folks to talk openly about how serious these matters are. For men, it’s also about checkups for prostate cancer.
mrsmarks at 10 — I don’t know if this will work for your FIL, but I seem to recall that Andrew Sullivan had some discussion going on about the bill and why it was bad for America. Also, I recall an op-ed that Bruce Fein did — I just can’t seem to find the link at the moment. (I think it was in the Philadelphia Inquirer, though…)
Gonna tell you-all a story, then head to the gym. Two weeks ago I went into the radiology center two days after receiving word that my lump was cancer and we had to find the primary cancer. My wife and I were in shock, I was busy in my mind completely re-writing my life, trying to figure out how to keep my daughter in her freshman year in Indiana, should I sell my business, and so on. Just trashed and in shock and feeling the breath of Death on the back of my neck.
I walk down the hall toward the CAT scan machine and there, hanging in a huge frame on the wall, is one of Lance’s yellow jerseys from the 2003 Tour. OMG! I felt this electric shock through my whole body…Lance beat this, and he was in a lot worse place than I am. He beat this and then beat every other racer with performances that will never be equaled. Oh, yeah. I can beat this fucking thing!
Best CAT scan ever.
Does Howard Dean Deserve Credit?
Dab at 13, Door To Door. That is the winning ticket. You rock!!
And here is a site to click every day for free mammograms, animal welfare, hunger, and other good causes:
http://www.thebreastcancersite.....RS_BCS_TAB
marksb @ 17
Great story. That fear can be overwhelming and all consuming, but don’t give in.
Are you a hoosier as well?
Amy Klobuchar, Dem cadidate for Senate in Minn, just did a fine job on MTP in a joint appearance/debate vs Mark Kennedy. Very poised, and handled every question well. I continue to be impressed by the large number of smart, articulate and thoughtful people the Dems have runninng in the key races.
O this very important T, The LA Times has an interesting piece on the ongoing murk that is Abramoff. This one features Mehlman!
“I have the suite filling up with DOJ staffers who just got our client $16 million,” one wrote. Another replied that the agency officials deserve any reward they want, “opening day tickets, Skins v. Giants, oriental massages, hookers, whatever.”
http://www.latimes.com/news/na.....-headlines
marksb, thank you for sharing that. We need to be more hopeful in general, I think.
Yesterday at the event I attended, someone asked the speaker, “How can we possibly win given all the election rigging and gerrymandering?” Korten (the speaker) reminded us of South Africa, and the fact that the people there were able to overcome apartheid, against worse odds than even anything Karl Rove has dreamed up.
Introducing the new Speaker:
Rolling With Pelosi
The GOP says she’s a loony lefty, and she is, in fact, unabashedly liberal. But she’s also a pol, and may just become Madam Speaker.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15...../newsweek/
Marksb, we’re behind you all the way, buddy. That’s the mind-set that kicks cancer’s ass. (((marksb)))
OKkiddo, did you grow up in sacramento or just go to concerts there? I wonder if we were at the same Beach Boys shows? My first, ever, concert was Sonny and Cher at the Sacto Auditorium,
Christy, thanks for the hugs. You kick ass, too, so I’ll look you up (and Marcy, too) when we’re, oh, 85 or so and we’ll compare notes.
Namaste, everyone. Off to fight some dragons (we’re having a neighbor dispute. They dug up our driveway for pipes without our permission and now that it’s going to rain and their workers neglected to cover the dirt piles and their trench and they have gone away for the weekend, they want us to cover it for them!!! No f-ing way) /rant (sorry)
Mommybrain at 26 — take photos of the damage before you touch anything — they can be very useful in case there is more damage than you think. Been there, done that with clients — and photos of all the angles of the problem can be very useful in telling the story to a jury, if it comes to that. Just a friendly hint, just in case…documentation is your friend.
Oklahoma kiddo @ 25
just coz the GOP turned Congress into a political whorehouse is no reason to call Speaker-to-be Nancy Pelosi a “Madam”
By the way, regarding the “war on Christmas” thread a couple days ago, it wasn’t until yesterday that I actually clicked to see (ick) the O’Reilly video, and found out that he was talking about the WoC in the context of “what will happen if the Democrats win in November?”
“They’ll take away Christmas!” Bill says. Oh please. Is that what they need to do to “get out the vote”?
Yeah, probably.
Mommybrain @ 26
I grew up in Sacto. Kindergarten through Sac City, ARJC and college (Chico State). Grad work at Sac State. First graduating class from Cordova High. Went to Folsom High also. Saw the Beach Boys, Sonny and Cher, Stones and many others at Memorial Auditorium. Also Governors Hall at old state fair grounds. Spent much time on the American River and Sacramento River. Fond memories.
There was a segment on TV within the past few days about businesses using “pink” to advertise their products while promising a certain amount of these sales would go to cancer research. I’m skeptical of these businesses and of all the money poured into cancer research which hasn’t produced many comforting results. My mother and two sisters died of cancer and the diagnoses and treatments were mostly shameful. It’s way past time for the public to get some answers on just where cancer research money is going.
I saw a story some time ago about the “pink” advertising. I think the bottom line was that you do need to research to make sure the claims are legit.
a wistful, nostalgic smile crosses my face - about 10 years ago I was to follow a daybook for a year - focusing on gratitude (thanks for what is working in your life), and self care - the author charges you early on with devoting an hour a day to yourself - Mr. cbl is as considerate and amazing as they come, but it was eyeopeining to find how difficult it was to get that hour or even how challenging it was to just sit after a long day and not do that one little load of laundry or straighten out that pile of newspapers . . .
Mommybrain - hey gal ! next time you’re at a bookstore, find this book: Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach, read the foreword and see if you can put it down - you might b/c your life has evolved beyond need for this material, but you may enjoy it (worth it for the quotes and reading list alone)
Just to cite one typical example, the
head of the Republican National Committee,
Ken Mehlman, said in an interview,
“Abramoff is someone who we don’t know
a lot about. We know what we read in the
paper,” even though, according to documents
obtained by Vanity Fair, Mehlman
exchanged e-mail with Abramoff, did him
political favors (such as blocking Clinton administration
alumnus Allen Stayman
from keeping a State Department job), had
Sabbath dinner at his house, and offered
to pick up his tab at Signatures.
Vanity Fair, April 2006.
http://www.vanityfair.com/pdf/.....ramoff.pdf
This is a deviation from topic but I would like to comment about the touching and amazing way in which the Amish community is dealing with their tragic loss.The love, strength,kindness, faith,and wisdom they have shown during this time of great sorrow has been inspirational to me .They have renewed my hope that peace is posssible.
Timely post, I came over to add this to the comments, crossposted at kos and http://mcegregious.blogspot.com
Teacherken at kos posted a long story about his/her depression, hundreds of comments. My 2 kopeks:
Chiming in: YES THANK YOU GOD for medicine
For me depression is like drowning.
[I’m bipolar…will talk about mania another time, except to say that alcohol isn’t for the depression, it’s for the mania.]
When I was drowning in depression, medicine brought me back up to the surface. I still had to swim to the shore.
These things helped me swim to shore: therapy of different kinds, studendous self-will, the love of family and friends and pets, and becoming more open within the community. I have given speeches to thousands of people about being mentally ill, bipolar with ADHD.
Now I have climbed out of the water, but I’m still standing very close to the edge, and am shivering and cold and wet. It is better, but still uncomfortable and occasionally dangerous.
Please DO reach out to help other people you see drowning, it really matters and helps.
Cross-posted at mcegregious, kos, and firedoglake, where I am known as the ranter on all things mental health, including my own, not making fun of people who are sick, and changing our society so that all of us can live a better life.
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/200.....obit_getty
RIP, brave soul.
OKkiddo, I moved to Sacto in ‘60 and left when Reagan became governor, early ‘67, but I consider Sacramento my home town (I spent longer there than anywhere else until I was in my 40’s).
Sutterville Elem, Brookfield, Sam Brannan Jr. high and if we’d stayed, McClatchy (BTW, have you seen some of the fantastic investigative work coming out of McClatchy reporters these days?)
You were in North Sac? We were in South Land Park. Phil Angelides’ wife, Julie, was one of the neighborhood kids. When I met her years later, see reminded me that we used to tell her to buzz off, she was too little to play with us.
Just a reminder to ladies in the audience to also get that Pap smear every year and make sure you mention any peculiar pains you have in the “vital parts area” to your gynecologist or primary care doctor. I did and we found early-stage cancers of the endometrium. I got the treatment I needed and I shudder to think what could have happened.
Same for guys — get your prostate checked and get that checkup every year. If you’re lucky enough to insurance to cover, don’t let it go to waste. We need everybody alive to help fight for more accessible health-care for all!
CHS–Far too often, women take care of everyone else around them, but forget to take care of themselves. Let this serve as a reminder to all our female readers to put on their oxygen mask first, so that you can better take care of those around you…
Wouldn’t know anything about that. *cough*guilty as charged, counselor*cough*. Throwing myself on the mercy of the court :)
Two thoughts. The FAMILY must make mom’s health a priority, because mom is sacrificing for everyone else. It’s just how we’re wired.
And second, moms—-if you won’t take care of YOU, at least take care of your children’s mother. I hope that is unfair enough to get in under people’s radar. It worked for me under some very trying circumstances.
Christy, thanks, and wishing you much oxygen and joy and health.
Mommybrain @ 38
I lived all over Sacramento at one time or another. I know about all the places you mention. We moved to Sacramento from Oklahoma in 1952 and first lived across the street from the Capitol. Do you recall the Rose garden in Land Park? My daughter graduated from Elk Grove H.S. You mention Phil Angelides. KOOL. I hope he becomes the next Calif. Gov.!
Well I kind of like studendous at 36, midway, but maybe a kind mod will make the correction? Not required. Thanks in advance.
As a two-time BrCa survivor, I no longer need mammograms. But I do have a hint for those who don’t like doing their monthly exams…delegate it to your partner. It can be really fun.
egregious -
egy - should probably do this over at “your place”, but have casually observed your dark times seem to come at regular intervals - timewise - like every 3 to 3 1/2 weeks - am I full of it ? merely coincindental in the time I’ve known ya ? are you aware of it ? if so, do you know what it is tied to ?
I am admittedly all but illiterate on this issue so forgive me my apparent rudeness, clumsiness, and insensitivity in asking - just care about ya and don’t want you to suffer - edumacate me gal
Great equalizer, cancer. Every family is touched by it in some way. One of the women I canvassed last weekend during what I will always remember as the “Weekend of Angry White Women Who Can’t Afford Retail Therapy” was a 50-something woman who’d had to move in with her mom to care for her during the course of treatment for cancer.
Her mom had horrible problems with Medicare-D, she said, and needed help getting through it. That was so damned sad, to hear that Medicare demanded more care from family than the cancer itself. (I was very glad, though, to hear that a Democratic representative had been a big help with sorting out some of the Medicare issues for them.)
I feel bad that I didn’t ask the woman how she was doing, whether she was taking care of herself. I think I’ll do that during our literature drop today, make sure that I drop off a voters’ guide and talk with her and remind her not to forget herself when she’s caring for her mom.
And yes, dear male FirePups, you do need to check yourselves, too. You might ask your physician about getting a baseline PSA test. And be sure to get regular dental checkups, too; my spouse has had surgery two years in a row to remove precancerous cells from his mouth — and he doesn’t use tobacco. There are other risk factors, including diabetes, that make getting dental checkups including visual exams for oral cancer imperative.
cbl @ 44
Wow…that’s a really interesting observation. Will have to go back thru my daily health journal and see. Thank you!! You’re not being rude, clumsy, or insensitive, quite the opposite.
As to danger I am seasonal, winter is bad tho summer mania is no picnic. I have vastly more experience with monitoring depression, so strangely even tho I am in deeper in December/January, things feel more out of control during summer mania. Meds working pretty well for depression except for occasional break-thru. Have NO mania meds, side effects too awful.
Yes always happy to have people come over to my humble blog, linked right here under my name, for comments, rants, hugs, and fresh coffee.
Ms. ET is a model of what Christy is advising - annual checks recommended for your age group, regular scheduled exercise, good (unprocessed!) food, relaxation and so on. She’s lost three close friends and we’ve lost a sister to breast cancer, all the women in their early to mid-40s. But she’s got twice as many friends who are survivors.
We have two close friends who have survived devastating cancer attacks, and who had no insurance. Fundraisers, friends’ contributions, grants - none were enough to stave off financial ruin. That sucks!
{{{Hugs}}} to you, Christy.
I’m male iRL, but I’m in a fairly unique place to appreciate the danger of breast cancer. I suffer from severe ulcerative colitis…a nasty disease in its own right, it comes with a greatly increased risk of colon cancer. So at 35, I get screened via colonoscopy more often then people twice my age. Rather like breast cancer, colon cancer starts out slow, but once it gets going, it’s got an extremely high morality rate…and either masectomy or illeotomy is quite a painful and traumatic — but survivable — experience.
I wish you the best of luck. You’re a survivor in every respect.
Marksb, you can beat this. Cancer is not what it used to be. My husband survived lung cancer - had half of one lung removed 8 years ago! Treatment choices are vastly improved. And always get yourself to one of the National Cancer Institute’s - Designated Cancer Centers - at least for a consultation about possible treatment.
Christy, scary about your breast cancer scares. I’ve had them too. Found a lump about 2 years ago that scared the bejeezus out of me. What scared me most was the thought of leaving my son without a mother. I was lucky, still am. And I’m thankful everyday that I am still here, having this time with my son (greatest kid ever).
Landing in the hospital last spring with severe pneumonia and pluerisy put things in perspective too. I’ve gotten much better at saying no.
I’ve still got a ways to go with self care. But I’ve developed this motto: Care for yourself at least as well as you would care for a good friend (or your child, aged parent, dog, cat, whoever you love and dote on).
GW Clusterfuck sets another record. He has now butchered 3,000 troops in Iraq (total coalition casualties).
Nice goin fece head.
Thanks egy,
a chuckle -
seasonal affected - mr cbl used to have it bad in winter even in sunny CA. and didn’t put much stock in premise of SAD back then - well one fall I’d “had enough” and secretly replaced lightbulbs at his office desk and at home computer desk with “the good kind” w/ immediate and amazing results - then waited till spring to tell him of my subterfuge - we laugh to this day about it
OT– More muzzling of patriots:
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/200.....buse_probe
Oh dear…Laura is “Really Angry”.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/.....31738.html
OK at 53 — that is too funny. God forbid people should be honest publicly or anything…sheesh.
I’m one of the 45 million uninsured. I last went in for a GYN check in 2001. It cost over $200 just for a routine checkup. I’ve never had a mammogram and don’t intend to get one. I don’t do BSE because I couldn’t afford treatment if I found anything. If I get cancer I’ll die. Just that simple. And I don’t even care.
SusanD at 55 — I don’t know where you live, but here in WV in my area, the local hospital is doing free mammograms for people within a certain income range. They do them annually. And several local organizations have a fund set up to help with expenses on a number of levels for folks without insurance. You might check your local American Cancer Society group or the oncology department of your local hospital and see if you qualify for screenings or other medical options. Catching something early makes it infinitely more survivable — and more cost effective for you. Just a thought. And if anyone else knows of any other groups that help with this, please post about them here in the comments because I’m certain there are lots of other folks in the same boat…
Mommybrain @ 11,
I had a lump removed, also not pre-cancerous. Very lucky, as I had a grandmother who died at age 33 from breast cancer.
When we found out about this lump, it was from my first mammogram at age 43.
Thanks, Christy.
SusanD,
please see this link provided by bd @ #20 above
http://www.thebreastcancersite.....RS_BCS_TAB
have been right there with you in the past and with a little work, was able to get myself free mammo and pap - do it ! we need every progressive soldier
Free Mammograms
For more information about receiving a free mammogram in your local area call 800-227-2345.
and if you can’t find specific info for your area on PAP SMEARS, you can get there from here
http://www.breastcancer.org/faq_insurance.html
SusanD,
I’m in your situation. This mammogram was funded by a state/federal program and was free to me. Free mammo, free pap smear.
“Each state’s Department of Health will have information on how to contact the nearest CDC screening and early detection program in your area. For more information, please contact the CDC at 1-888-842-6355 or through their Web site at www.cdc.gov/cancer.”
http://www.cancer.org/docroot/.....ection.asp
I hope this helps!
I am a nurse and I agree 100%. I tell my fellow nurses all the time that they must take care of themselves first before they can take care of others. It’s the only way I have lasted 15 years in this line of work.
cbl @ 51
You are a sneaky gal! Love this story.
Mr. ReddHedd is amazing about that
???
i thought you and jane were lesbians together !?
A bit of an update on annual tests:
With the new HPV test, if you agree to have one, you can now have a pap test every 3 years–if the HPV test is negative. My gynocologist gave me the option (it does raise the cost, but over 3 years….).
Also, Planned Parenthood is very good at serving women with limited financial means. They have a sliding fee scale. So, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE get scheduled. It may be months, but your health is precious.
Also a word to the guys: I suspect environmental conditions are driving male breast cancer up. So, you do not get a pass on the BSE or breast check-up anymore. It’s MORE lethal with men, because the assumption (including by doctors) is that guys aren’t at risk.
Great post and comments. Many thanks!
moron at 63 — um, no. Considering I live on the East Coast and Jane lives on the West Coast, the logistics alone would make that difficult. Let alone the fact that I’m a happily married (13 years and counting) heterosexual sort. *(not that there’s anything wrong with that…)
I’m a happily married (13 years and counting) heterosexual sort
well that’s good too. i’m just vaguely……. disappointed. i thought you were such a cute couple!!
anway, great post.
Well, now that we have that confusion clarified . . . I thought I read that Jane twisted an ankle?? or was that just the usual over-my-head snark about TRex online shopping? Is she okay?
can we please, please please stop accepting this formulation that women who survive breast cancer are fighters? By accepting that formulation you are implicitly saying that those who don’t survive it are somehow quitters or perhaps just weaklings who didn’t give their all for themselves and their families.
I know several women who fought like hell and still died. They were not weak.
Disease takes the strong and the weak, and those who survive are LUCKY - on any number of levels, including having the right health insurance to pay for their treatment.
This is already EPU’d, but I have to add to this thread…
On Wednesday, my son’s occupational therapist died from ovarian cancer. He’d stopped seeing her several months ago, when she went on medical leave. I don’t even have words for what this amazing woman did for him. The OC at his school wasn’t even able to find evidence of one of the problems on which she had been working with him.
I am heartsick at this stupid loss. I want to cry every time I think of her six year old daughter. Damn, here I go again.
I’m not sure if I’m paranoid, in denial.. or if I’m rightfully cynical. But when it comes to breast cancer, I’m not convinced early detection saves lives. I worry that all those premenopausal mammograms increase cancer risk. Also if you find cancer, what do you do about it? Do you undergo chemo and radiation for a cancer that might not have killed you anyway and then deal with the devastating and potentially lifelong consequences of that?
With pap smears its different.. the test doesn’t expose you to radiation, and early cervical cancer treatment has been proven to dramatically lower death rates.
The number of women who die from breast cancer this year is roughly the same that died from breast cancer 40 years ago. That doesn’t make me feel good.
Is there any guarantee at all that chemo and radiation will save our lives?
I’ve had a lumpy left breast for about 10 years.. Maybe its cancer, I have no idea. But what if I would have had it biopsied when I first noticed it and it was cancer.. And I underwent treatment, and was still alive today. At 10 years out, I’d be considered “cured” thanks to cancer treatment. And I would be dealing with the toxic side effects of the drugs (maybe my heart would be weaker, maybe my fingertips would be numb, maybe my kidney function would be off) But I’d still be considered a “success.”
Say I had it biopsied, and it wasn’t cancer back then.. Certainly docs would want to keep a close eye on it, and that breast with funny dna that causes funny lumps would have been exposed to radiation from at least 10 mammograms by now. Am I to believe that’s totally benign?
Yes, we women absolutely need to put our oxygen masks on first.. It just so hard sometimes to know the best way to go about doing that.